perhaps child masturbation? - Children's Health Message Board

Kat1966 · 05-20-2005, 06:17 PM

Another friend and I where talking today and she told me about her daughter Melissa, she said since she was 18 mo she has been putting her legs together, looks like holding her breathe and getting really red /purple and sweating and then crying real hard, it look like she was having a orgasm it scared them and they couldn't get her to undo her legs, this is how they found out she has been doing this, they heard her crying and thought she was hungry or needed to be changed. Now her daughter is 4 and is still doing this, she will take and put her legs together, hold her hands almost like in a prayer and sweat, groan and moan and looks like go into an orgasms again. They ask if any one has sexually abused her, or where she learned this, she said no one taught her this and she did it because it felt good between her legs.
Is this normal? I know children, will masturbate when they start touching their selves and know it feels good to them. But to start so young? And do it the way she does? They say she hold her breathe until she can't and starts humping up and down, moaning and groaning. Does Melissa need some help?
Is something wrong we they don't know of. yes spoke to a Dr the peditrictan he called it straining a form or materbation. What's every ones opinion please?
shoould they keep letting her do it if it's or seems to not hurt her? or stop her and how?
thank you.
Kat1966.

Curious One · 05-24-2005, 11:38 AM

I've never heard of that -- especially in a child so young. Very odd. Have you asked any other people who are not online?

Kat1966 · 05-24-2005, 05:42 PM

curious one,
yes, very odd to me to.

no, I wasn't sure where to post this.... or would be o.k. to post it.
Can you tell me which form on here would be best? The mental fourm perhaps?
I am a lost, the Peditrtian said it's normal I, don't think so...
Thank you so much for your post, help and concern, it's appreciated greatly.
I wonder if some one could have taught her this?
Thanks again.
Kat1966.

Kat1966 · 05-25-2005, 10:04 AM

Thank you, thank you to the person whom helped me. I am so sorry I don't remember your name so I can thank you properly.
I appreciate it and I know Melissa's parents will to. (Besides being relief that what she is doing is nothing harmful to her .
Kat1966.

Curious One · 05-25-2005, 10:22 AM

Hi Kat,

Well, I see the responses are not pouring in... ...I am a mom and I tried to put myself in your shoes (or her parents shoes) and this is what I think I would do.

Were it me, I would wait for the the next time she does it and I would have a friendly conversation with her about it. I would gently ask questions (again) like:

What are you doing honey? Oh, it feels good? Where does it feel good? Sometimes when you do that, your face looks like it actually hurts -- do you know why your body gets so stiff -- like it's frozen? Do you do this when you are at __________? Do any of your friends do that to feel good? What about anybody in our family -- do you know anybody else who likes to feel good in the same way?

Then, if I was satisfied with all of the answers (which would hopefully tell me that she was not abused or taught to do that by an adult) I would go to stage two: (and this is MY opinion and MY practice and just a suggestion)

Sweetie, you know your body is your body it is perfectly okay for you to make yourself feel good and I want you to remember that making our bodies feel good like that is something we do in private -- like in your bedroom or in the bathroom when you are by yourself.

Keep breathing and keep being a great protector of her!!