dolejaly

I have a 12 yr old son that likes rock and roll music, video games(of course), and has his hair long....As w/ my oldest boy when he was the same age decided to grow his hair long as well. My oldest boy didn't cut his hair until he was 22, and the reason he told me he never cut it before was because of other kids making slams at him about his hair and he wanted to show them he is not just another robotic peer that is going to do what every other kid does to fit in, that is why he never drank,smoked or got into drugs. He wouldn't even let his friends smoke in his truck when he was 16/17 yrs of age. I am not a mother that feels long hair is wrong or makes the person a bad person(such as Jesus has long hair)...Same way w/ rock music...But, the problem is w/ my 12 yr old he is harassed badly at school being called gay, ****, etc..you get the picture...He has great grades in school, but since this school year his emotional status has become worse and he becomes emotional and says he better do what the other students want or they won't like him, beings he has told me other kids in the school told him if you cut your hair we will be your friend. I find that right down wrong!...Even the teachers and principle have made comments about maybe he should cut his hair. The school never corrects other kids for calling him gay, ****, etc....and believe me my kid is far from that, just because he chooses to like rock music and have long hair the school officials should not make suggestions of changing his appearance and not addressing the issue. I have been up to the school several times where my son has retaliated and called names right back at the kids, but unfortunately my son then is called into the office and subject to consequences of name calling, but never is one of the other students called in for what they say to him. Which has made it very obvious that the school is no better than the students.

I thought schools were to try and avoid peer pressure from students to be like everyone else, you know the saying, if so and so is doing it then we want to be cool and accepted like that kid...So if he cuts his hair as other kids want, what is next smoke weed, go out and have sex, be cool and carry a weapon just because some one told him they would like him if they were just like another kid?....At this time we are coming to the end of the school year and normally I tell my kids like w/ the hair issue if you want it cut short ,then lets get it cut, I want them to be who they are, w/ in reason...LOL...but this time my advice is different to him I told him there is only a couple of weeks left of school leave the hair long to show them you will not become that so called robotic school kid that is going to be bullied into peer pressure for anything....If he wants to cut it after school is out for the summer because of his own choice then so be it, but I don't want him to ever feel he needs to do something to be like someone else, to me if one of my friends told me to do something or they wouldn't be my friend, they were not my friend in the first place. My partner feels that maybe I am wrong and to be accepted that he should do what they want instead of feeling excluded...

Am I wrong for not wanting my son to become what other kids become, a image to impress others, to allow such control over appearance...?