When you say bathe - do you mean an actual bath or just a quick shower? I think you may get a few different opinions here but I think at 6 years old it's still ok if it's a "get in the shower, get clean, get out" sort of thing. My husband used to do that with our son until he was about 6 and it was quick - he would help my son get washed, send him out to me and then continue with his own shower. I don't think that's a big deal however if they were sitting in a bathtub together for like 1/2 an hour well....not too sure how I would have felt about that but probobly not good.
This is just my opinion though - everyone is different with what they are comfortable with when it comes to this sort of thing.
You say this is your Grandson bathing with his Father so is his father your son or son in law?
I can't give you an exact age, but I have a 4 year old son and I don't bathe with him. However, my husband still does on occasion, like if we are at the beach house and come home all sandy. Both my son and DH will hop in the shower. My son still asks to take showers with my husband all the time. My son hasn't asked any questions about my husband's anatomy or body, he just looks at it as playtime. I will probably only allow it for another year. Sorry I can't give you an exact age.
My step daughter is older and my husband said he didn't feel comfortable bathing with her at all. (never did)
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Last edited by Belly Kelly; 04-07-2011 at 06:20 AM.
The only reason that I would believe this to be ok is ifthe child was too afraid to bathe all by himself. With that said, it is important to allow the child to bathe himself because it teaches him independance. I am really no very concerned that he showers with his own father, then I would be for the child not learning to do it all by himself like a big boy. He is old enough not to have to shower with dad anymore. As a former teacher in my opinion would be age 3 and younger would be acceptable . this child needs to learn about water temp. turning on the shower, and cleaning his own body by this age. it is developmentally inapropriate at this age .