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Old 07-12-2012, 02:06 AM   #1
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Unhappy Problem Child

My nephew has been getting into a lot of trouble at school, I believe it started in Kindergarten. He lives with his mom (my sister) and his dad (my brother in law), 120 miles away, so I mostly have been communicating with my nephew on the phone, and I see him every other month or so. I want to help him with his problems at school. I feel as though my sister and brother in law's relationship is the cause of my nephews problems at school. When my nephew was 3, my sister and bro-in-law split up. They lived in separate households and my nephew went back and forth between the two households. My sister, who I believe is suffering from depression and low self esteem, has been stable when it comes to her jobs and apartments. However, my brother in law, an alcoholic/addict, has not been so stable with his jobs/apartments. My sister's depression and low self esteem I'm sure is affecting my nephew as well as my brother-in-law's. My brother in-law was jumping from couch to couch or bed to bed after my sister and him broke up. So my nephew was always visiting his dad at a different persons house all the time. My brother-in-law injured his back at his construction job, and was in a workers compensation settlement, and on disability for 2 years. When the workers comp case was settled, he was cut a check for an amount of money that I'm not sure of. He blew the money and after a few months, he somehow convinced my sister to let him come stay there with her. He was homeless. He pretty much goes to work in the morning, comes home late, and is off and on being present in his sons life. My sister feels as though he's using drugs again.

Anyway, I talked to some counselors/therapists, all who suggested that my nephew get into seeing a therapist. When I mentioned what those 3 or 4 counselors said, she seems keen on the idea, but she said she wants to wait another year and see if his problems persist. Talking to her about it has proven difficult, as she gets upset and angry with me. I'm not trying to tell her how to be a parent, but I honestly feel my nephew needs someone to talk to. Since my sister isn't taking my nephew to a therapist RIGHT NOW, I want to help my nephew talk and vent in any way possible. I'm not sure how to get him to talk, though. I've been speaking a bit to counselors and my personal therapist about it.

So...here's the point...I'm mostly looking for book suggestions that I can read that may help me help my nephew. Advice is appreciated, but book suggestions would be more appreciated.

Thank you kindly, god bless,
-Laura-

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Old 07-12-2012, 09:07 AM   #2
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Re: Problem Child

I have no idea how to help your nephew, but I think your nephew has no body to trust, and no one to trust. but maybe you can the one, maybe you don't need him to talk, just give him a hug, use your action to show him love and care, maybe it can be work.
maybe it can help him, but make sure you show your pephew love and care, not indulgent him,
and maybe you can see him every day or week rather than every month, how can he trust you if he only see you every month?

 
Old 07-12-2012, 11:58 AM   #3
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Re: Problem Child

I've been calling him on the phone as much as possible. He lives 2 or 3 hours away from me, one way, so I can't get to see him every day or even every week. My car is old and its too far to drive it down there. When I drive down there, I rent a car. So, financial reasons hold me back from visiting him more often. Hopefully by next year, I will have a new car, and plan to visit him a lot more.

 
Old 07-22-2012, 12:49 PM   #4
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Re: Problem Child

sorry for being so late, do you mind to tell how old is your nephew? and the problem at school? and how does he act when you go to see him?

 
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