pat, 25 years ago i got the flu, when i got over it, my life changed. i had been active, able to walk, drive, be with my 3 yr. old and other family members at recreation. i became so tired, i could hardly get through the day. since then, i have been to doctors, had MRIs, blood test, can't find any reason why i am a chair potato. the least amount of walking or cleaning causes me tobe out of breath. i birdwatched while my family hiked. i sat in the car while they would go look at the views. our vacations became less fun for me. i spent a lot of time at the grand canyon sitting on the rock fence playing with the squirrels. i didn't notice much change in me after menopause. i have just been the like an old lady since i was 40. i do have a lot of hot flashes still. but as for the fatique it is about the same. i haven't been given that diagnosis, my PCP says i have fibromyalgia. i had black outs when it started at age 40, and every so often when it first began i would have a "normal" day. i would clean house or do whatever i could on that day. the next day i couldn't even crawl out of bed. yes i have had days i couldn't get out of bed.
my children have grown up without a mother doing the normal things with them. my son who was 3 became my helpmate. he felt like all he was all his life was mama's go for. he told me once he never wanted to be called a gopher again. i did not realize what i had done to his life. when he left home, i lost the one person who could finish my sentences for me. he always knew the word my brain didn't
i could have written your letter word for word. i take narcotics for the pain, pills for the fibro, and pills for the arthritis. but i am still a chair potato.
so NO you are not the only one. kat.