Welcome to this board.
You can always come here and share with us what you are going through. We all do that and it feel so good to have people who understand your problem and support you in your need.
I can tell you that the process of recovering from back pain is long and not always easy. My husband has back problem for years and expire a lots of options, but refuses to go for surgery since he sees what I am going through due to my spinal surgeries. He would go to PT, would get a little better, than would pick up something and back to same problem. He has arthrities, bulges and herniations. As you know we all start changes in our spines at age 25 so at his 56 his spine definitely not perfect.
Make sure you do your mild exsersercises, swimming is great, stretches is great, learned how to bend right and so on. PT is a great thing if they are really good.
Try whatever you can to help your pain. Good spinal Ortho Dr is the key, not just an Ortho, but spinal one.
Best of luck to you and your wife.