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Old 09-27-2010, 10:24 AM   #1
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oxycodone killed our sex life

i have a number of physical problems that require i take 120mg of oxycodone,90mgs of hydrocodone and soma at night. im not in the mood for sex very often anymore,but i can be "made" to be. the problem is my new husband also takes the oxycodone and he cannot maintain an erection for even 5mins.he swears its not me,that he has the desire but the drugs keep sex from happening.even if we do get him hard enough for intercourse,he never ejaculates and ends up getting to limp to stay inside me. this is causing extreme stress on our relationship. can anyone give me any advice? he wont stop taking the meds altho he claims he's cut back, but the proof is in the pudding,ya know? i love this man very deeply but somethings gotta give.please help.

 
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Old 09-27-2010, 11:37 AM   #2
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

How long has your hubby been on the oxy? Has he had his testosterone level checked? Pain meds can cause a drop in the level in his body. It might be worth asking for a check on that.

 
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Old 09-27-2010, 02:46 PM   #3
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

close to a year i think. i will ask him to do that but this is a VERY sensitive subject with him.

 
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i have been taking more of my meds than i should because my dr hasent upped me since i've been seeing her. the dose she put me on to begin with helped more than what my pd was giving me,but not enough to keep me comfortable. i have brought this to her attention quite a few times,but she already has my scripts ready when i come in and doesnt seem interestd in changing anything. i acually have considered tring to get on suboxen to get back down to the original prescription but if i do,then wont they be able to cut me off altogether? if i get the subs on my own without telling a dr,i still need to know what the dosing is so i get the right amount without being to sick. can anyone give me some suggestions? its hard to get into a pain clinic at all and it seems like finding one that acually cares is even harder.i dont want to mess things up with my current dr and end up with nothing while waiting to get in somewhere else.i do have extreme pain but since my dr wont help me find something that acually helps i've been self medicating and now things have gotten outta control.i need to get back where i started.i need help.please.

 
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

I thought that when I read your post that is was for sure a misquote...120mg of oxycodone & 90mg ofhydrocone...you're taking these at the same time each night before you go to bed? Do you realize what an incredibly high dose of meds this is? The highest standard dose of Oxycodone allowed in a 24 hr. period is 60mg, the highest standard does of hydrocodone is 80mg. Do you realize that you've doubled the amount of oxycodone that you should be taking?

Please, Please be carefut with this, you could have some very serious respitory effects from this over ingesting of meds. And all of that tylenol can do great harm on your kidneys and liver. Please take care.

 
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

are u takinh LA oxycontin by chance? if not; i agree w prev poster; and you are jeopardizing your relationship w your PM, not to mention your relationship w bring all your meds in and bring hubby and have a heart to heart with this dr-tell him/her about the quality of life you are going thru and the consequences of your pain and the intamacy issues; if he/she is a well traind pain specialist he/she will be able to come up with a new plan of treatment

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ps-by not following your dr's prescribing directions-you may be heading down a potentially dangerous path
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

Don't you run out of meds before the month is done? You are running the risk of-asides from over medicating-of not having any doctor at all. If your doctor finds out about this, she will red flag you and you won't be able to any pain meds.

Also, I can't see that anyone on this board will tell you how to self medicate on suboxone. You could be sued if anything happened.

you need to be honest with your doctor before something happens!

 
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

I sincerely agree with "IBake&Pray". There's no one on the boards that can coach you through medicating yourself with suboxone. You're already seriously endangering your health by overdosing on the amounts of meds that you are taking now. How does the pharmacist or doc not red flag you when you have to get early refills????

One thing you have to learn about Pain Management. The One Major Rule is simply TRUTH AND HONESTLY. If your PM thinks that you are lieing to him or you are not taking your meds as he tells you to, he will drop you like a hot potatoe. And once you get dropped by a PM, it's not easy to get picked up by another. Please really think about what your doing. We Worry About you.

 
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

I've been on Endone (oxycontin) for about a year and a half now, I take 6 tablets a day equalling 30mg plus a few other medications (valium and Luvox). Up until now I've been fine, but steadily over the past 3 months have noticed a massive decline in my very active sex drive and for the last month have found that I cannot orgasm at all...some of the time I fake it with my husband as to not hurt his feelings, but have discussed the matter with him and he's very understanding. But I know how frustrated I get over this issue too.

 
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

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i have a number of physical problems that require i take 120mg of oxycodone,90mgs of hydrocodone and soma at night. im not in the mood for sex very often anymore,but i can be "made" to be. the problem is my new husband also takes the oxycodone please help.
Good Evening Tammielynn,
I'm concerned about a few of things you said. 1. You're on high doses of meds at night that could slow your breathing. Please be careful, and double check what you're doing. 2. Somehow you're getting meds from someone other than your pain specialist, and that can only lead down one road, the road to no good. As other posters noted you're setting yourself up for being redflagged in the world of pain management. Once that happens it will be very difficult, almost impossible, for you to get help for your pain. 3. You note that your new husband also takes the oxycodone. This statement has me most concerned. If the pain specialist finds out its reason for immediate dismissal from treatment. There are also legal issues with someone taking a controlled substance that is not prescribed for them.
I don't mean to sound flip, but at this point issues with your sex life are the least of your problem. You need to get your pain under control with the help of one doctor. You have to get a safe or lock box and keep your meds locked up so that no one, absolutely no one can take any of your pills at any time. Many pain specialsts require pill counts where patients are required to bring in their pain meds at their appointments. The nurse counts every pill, and figures out how many should be there based on when the prescription was filled. Think about what would happen if your doctor's office called today and said that he wanted you to come in tomorrow with your pills for a pill count. This is serious stuff. You're taking medication that is meant for you, and only you. I'd hate to see you end up in legal trouble over this, and without pain control.
We're here to help, let us know how, but please listen to what we've said so far, and let us know what you think.
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

Hopefully she means that she just takes the Soma at night. However, everything else in tammielynn's post can lead to dangerous consequenses....janiee

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Old 09-30-2010, 11:09 AM   #12
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

Unfortunately, this is pretty much the way it is for all men. When on even a moderate dose of opiates I am completely unable to get an erection or have an orgasm. All the men I have discussed this with say they experience the same problem. No exceptions.

Your man is going to have to choose betweem opiates and sex. It's that simple. If he needs pain releif I would try Methadone for pain management or a non-narcotic medication like Lyrica. When I was on a stable dose of Methadone I was able to have sex. Lyrica is also a very good pain medication that won't mess up his libido. All other opiates will prevent him from having sex. No way around it.


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i have a number of physical problems that require i take 120mg of oxycodone,90mgs of hydrocodone and soma at night. im not in the mood for sex very often anymore,but i can be "made" to be. the problem is my new husband also takes the oxycodone and he cannot maintain an erection for even 5mins.he swears its not me,that he has the desire but the drugs keep sex from happening.even if we do get him hard enough for intercourse,he never ejaculates and ends up getting to limp to stay inside me. this is causing extreme stress on our relationship. can anyone give me any advice? he wont stop taking the meds altho he claims he's cut back, but the proof is in the pudding,ya know? i love this man very deeply but somethings gotta give.please help.

 
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Re: oxycodone killed our sex life

Tammielynn,
Does your husband have pain issues? Does he go to the same pain specialist as you?
We're just trying to put the pieces of the puzzle together to give you the best advice.
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Old 10-01-2010, 12:07 AM   #14
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The only possible solution I could think of would be a drug like Viagra. The main problem for men on opiates is we can't get enough blood to pump into our penises to make them fully erect. Drugs like Viagra may work since they increase blood pressure. Opiates will drastically decrease blood pressure.

 
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Has your husband considered prescribed Viagra at all?

 
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