i have a number of physical problems that require i take 120mg of oxycodone,90mgs of hydrocodone and soma at night. im not in the mood for sex very often anymore,but i can be "made" to be. the problem is my new husband also takes the oxycodone and he cannot maintain an erection for even 5mins.he swears its not me,that he has the desire but the drugs keep sex from happening.even if we do get him hard enough for intercourse,he never ejaculates and ends up getting to limp to stay inside me. this is causing extreme stress on our relationship. can anyone give me any advice? he wont stop taking the meds altho he claims he's cut back, but the proof is in the pudding,ya know? i love this man very deeply but somethings gotta give.please help.
How long has your hubby been on the oxy? Has he had his testosterone level checked? Pain meds can cause a drop in the level in his body. It might be worth asking for a check on that.
i have been taking more of my meds than i should because my dr hasent upped me since i've been seeing her. the dose she put me on to begin with helped more than what my pd was giving me,but not enough to keep me comfortable. i have brought this to her attention quite a few times,but she already has my scripts ready when i come in and doesnt seem interestd in changing anything. i acually have considered tring to get on suboxen to get back down to the original prescription but if i do,then wont they be able to cut me off altogether? if i get the subs on my own without telling a dr,i still need to know what the dosing is so i get the right amount without being to sick. can anyone give me some suggestions? its hard to get into a pain clinic at all and it seems like finding one that acually cares is even harder.i dont want to mess things up with my current dr and end up with nothing while waiting to get in somewhere else.i do have extreme pain but since my dr wont help me find something that acually helps i've been self medicating and now things have gotten outta control.i need to get back where i started.i need help.please.
I thought that when I read your post that is was for sure a misquote...120mg of oxycodone & 90mg ofhydrocone...you're taking these at the same time each night before you go to bed? Do you realize what an incredibly high dose of meds this is? The highest standard dose of Oxycodone allowed in a 24 hr. period is 60mg, the highest standard does of hydrocodone is 80mg. Do you realize that you've doubled the amount of oxycodone that you should be taking?
Please, Please be carefut with this, you could have some very serious respitory effects from this over ingesting of meds. And all of that tylenol can do great harm on your kidneys and liver. Please take care.
are u takinh LA oxycontin by chance? if not; i agree w prev poster; and you are jeopardizing your relationship w your PM, not to mention your relationship w bring all your meds in and bring hubby and have a heart to heart with this dr-tell him/her about the quality of life you are going thru and the consequences of your pain and the intamacy issues; if he/she is a well traind pain specialist he/she will be able to come up with a new plan of treatment
good luck
ps-by not following your dr's prescribing directions-you may be heading down a potentially dangerous path
Don't you run out of meds before the month is done? You are running the risk of-asides from over medicating-of not having any doctor at all. If your doctor finds out about this, she will red flag you and you won't be able to any pain meds.
Also, I can't see that anyone on this board will tell you how to self medicate on suboxone. You could be sued if anything happened.
you need to be honest with your doctor before something happens!
I sincerely agree with "IBake&Pray". There's no one on the boards that can coach you through medicating yourself with suboxone. You're already seriously endangering your health by overdosing on the amounts of meds that you are taking now. How does the pharmacist or doc not red flag you when you have to get early refills????
One thing you have to learn about Pain Management. The One Major Rule is simply TRUTH AND HONESTLY. If your PM thinks that you are lieing to him or you are not taking your meds as he tells you to, he will drop you like a hot potatoe. And once you get dropped by a PM, it's not easy to get picked up by another. Please really think about what your doing. We Worry About you.
I've been on Endone (oxycontin) for about a year and a half now, I take 6 tablets a day equalling 30mg plus a few other medications (valium and Luvox). Up until now I've been fine, but steadily over the past 3 months have noticed a massive decline in my very active sex drive and for the last month have found that I cannot orgasm at all...some of the time I fake it with my husband as to not hurt his feelings, but have discussed the matter with him and he's very understanding. But I know how frustrated I get over this issue too.
i have a number of physical problems that require i take 120mg of oxycodone,90mgs of hydrocodone and soma at night. im not in the mood for sex very often anymore,but i can be "made" to be. the problem is my new husband also takes the oxycodone please help.
Good Evening Tammielynn,
I'm concerned about a few of things you said. 1. You're on high doses of meds at night that could slow your breathing. Please be careful, and double check what you're doing. 2. Somehow you're getting meds from someone other than your pain specialist, and that can only lead down one road, the road to no good. As other posters noted you're setting yourself up for being redflagged in the world of pain management. Once that happens it will be very difficult, almost impossible, for you to get help for your pain. 3. You note that your new husband also takes the oxycodone. This statement has me most concerned. If the pain specialist finds out its reason for immediate dismissal from treatment. There are also legal issues with someone taking a controlled substance that is not prescribed for them.
I don't mean to sound flip, but at this point issues with your sex life are the least of your problem. You need to get your pain under control with the help of one doctor. You have to get a safe or lock box and keep your meds locked up so that no one, absolutely no one can take any of your pills at any time. Many pain specialsts require pill counts where patients are required to bring in their pain meds at their appointments. The nurse counts every pill, and figures out how many should be there based on when the prescription was filled. Think about what would happen if your doctor's office called today and said that he wanted you to come in tomorrow with your pills for a pill count. This is serious stuff. You're taking medication that is meant for you, and only you. I'd hate to see you end up in legal trouble over this, and without pain control.
We're here to help, let us know how, but please listen to what we've said so far, and let us know what you think.
Peggy
Unfortunately, this is pretty much the way it is for all men. When on even a moderate dose of opiates I am completely unable to get an erection or have an orgasm. All the men I have discussed this with say they experience the same problem. No exceptions.
Your man is going to have to choose betweem opiates and sex. It's that simple. If he needs pain releif I would try Methadone for pain management or a non-narcotic medication like Lyrica. When I was on a stable dose of Methadone I was able to have sex. Lyrica is also a very good pain medication that won't mess up his libido. All other opiates will prevent him from having sex. No way around it.
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Originally Posted by tammielynn
i have a number of physical problems that require i take 120mg of oxycodone,90mgs of hydrocodone and soma at night. im not in the mood for sex very often anymore,but i can be "made" to be. the problem is my new husband also takes the oxycodone and he cannot maintain an erection for even 5mins.he swears its not me,that he has the desire but the drugs keep sex from happening.even if we do get him hard enough for intercourse,he never ejaculates and ends up getting to limp to stay inside me. this is causing extreme stress on our relationship. can anyone give me any advice? he wont stop taking the meds altho he claims he's cut back, but the proof is in the pudding,ya know? i love this man very deeply but somethings gotta give.please help.
Tammielynn,
Does your husband have pain issues? Does he go to the same pain specialist as you?
We're just trying to put the pieces of the puzzle together to give you the best advice.
Peggy
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The only possible solution I could think of would be a drug like Viagra. The main problem for men on opiates is we can't get enough blood to pump into our penises to make them fully erect. Drugs like Viagra may work since they increase blood pressure. Opiates will drastically decrease blood pressure.
This is not true for all men. I am on Percocet 10/325`s 4 times a day for the past two years, and I have had no problem having sex whatsoever. It effects everyone differently.
Honey,
I more than understand your situation, try your hardest, I know it is hard, because I have problems myself and I have told my doctor I want to be functional and I am not I have a million things wrong and each one of them would qualify me for pain mgmt. If your husband isn't supposed to be taking it I didn't read that anywhere, he should get off have him go on the sub, but if you have real issues DO NOT GO ON THE SUB unless you really want to get off the medication. They willl find you and they will blacklist you. Careful. Yes he could try some medication to counteraffect the oxy too.
It's hard I know it is. Hang in there and be strong.
As I said, for men on at least a moderate dose. 40mg of oxycodone a day is a low dose and may or may not have the negative effects. I am referring to larger doses like the dose desribed in the thread. 40mg of oxy would never hinder my sex life.
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Agreed... If he really needs the opiates for pain management then it is something your going to have to work through. You really should discuss this TOGETHER with his prescribing doctor. If he is taking the opiates recreationally then he should simply stop as recreational opiate use never ends well. I recommend Suboxone, NEVER methadone as it will have the sexual side effects and he will just be trading one habit for another. Methadone withdrawal is also hell on earth. Much worse than even heroin withdrawal. If you can't find a doctor in your area who is licensed to prescribe Suboxone I would avoid methadone and detox using a combination of clonodine patches and K*ratom (had to add the * or it wouldn't show the word). Clonodine is a heart medication that is also used for opiate withdrawal. Occording to all the doctors I have spoken to it "tricks" the body into thinking it's not in withdrawal. I don't know how but it really helps. It will take away about 50% of the withdrawal symptoms. The other drug, K*ratom, is an herbal medicine sometimes used for opiate withdrawal. It can be hard to find in stores as it is rather new to the U.S. so you may have to order it online. But it really does the trick as it acts on certain opiate receptors in the brain. Keep in mind, however, K*ratom IS addictive and he should use as little as possible while in withdrawal. 12 - 15mg of the leaves or 1mg of the 15X concentrated powder should be a good starting detox dose.
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Honey,
I more than understand your situation, try your hardest, I know it is hard, because I have problems myself and I have told my doctor I want to be functional and I am not I have a million things wrong and each one of them would qualify me for pain mgmt. If your husband isn't supposed to be taking it I didn't read that anywhere, he should get off have him go on the sub, but if you have real issues DO NOT GO ON THE SUB unless you really want to get off the medication. They willl find you and they will blacklist you. Careful. Yes he could try some medication to counteraffect the oxy too.
It's hard I know it is. Hang in there and be strong.
i have a number of physical problems that require i take 120mg of oxycodone,90mgs of hydrocodone and soma at night. im not in the mood for sex very often anymore,but i can be "made" to be. the problem is my new husband also takes the oxycodone .... he wont stop taking the meds altho he claims he's cut back, but the proof is in the pudding,ya know? i love this man very deeply but somethings gotta give.please help.
Tinabean,
I was the one who asked about the husband and whether he was taking the meds due to pain issues or not. Perhaps I'm a stickler for grammar, but I was concerned about Tammielynn with her concerns as noted above that "my new husband also takes the oxycondone..... he won't stop taking the meds altho he claims he's cut back, but the proof is in the pudding".
If indeed said husband is taking the meds as prescribed by his physician then there's one set of issues. If he's not, then there's another set of issues.
If the husband is taking oxycodone for pain then I would go back to his doctor and explain the issues the couple is having between the sheets. The doctor can then make adjustments to his pain management therapies and hopefully the problem will have a simple solution.
On the other hand, if the husband is not under a doctor's care for the pain, then there are another set of issues that need a different approach.
Tammielynn,
Please keep us posted on how you're doing and how we can continue to support you.
Peggy
the problem is my new husband also takes the oxycodone and he cannot maintain an erection for even 5mins.he swears its not me,that he has the desire but the drugs keep sex from happening.even if we do get him hard enough for intercourse,he never ejaculates and ends up getting to limp to stay inside me. this is causing extreme stress on our relationship. can anyone give me any advice? he wont stop taking the meds altho he claims he's cut back, but the proof is in the pudding,ya know? i love this man very deeply but somethings gotta give.please help.
....janiee
