| | Coping with Codependency
I recently dated a guy who is an alcoholic. Our relationship became very intense very quickly. We connected on a very deep level, and just had an amazing connection. However, he's an alcoholic, and his behaviors were extremely manic. One day he was affectionate and loving, and the next he was cold and distant. Our relationship was long distance, and I made frequent visits to go see him. Just this past weekend, he kicked me out of his apartment after telling me he slept with his ex-girlfriend. Naturally, he had been drinking and I was hysterical. After all of the things he's done, this was definitely the worst, and I promised myself I was done. I ended up calling him Thursday night after finding out from his parents that he was going into rehab on Friday. We spoke for about 45 minutes and that was it. I can't stop thinking about him and wondering how he is...I just bought a book on codependency and realize that it's what I became with him. I feel myself slipping back into depression and I need help getting out of it. I also know that in his 12 step recovery, he will be making amends with those he's hurt. Assuming I will be one of the people he will need to make amends with, I don't know if it's in my best interest to have any sort of contact with him. I don't trust myself enough...I need to detach. Any advice???