Thank you Arememom,
As you know, I really needed to read that. I have purchased a book by Melanie Beattie that applies the 12 step program to overcoming codependency. I need to print this out and read it over to explore my motives in my actions with others. I do most of those things, and am the "victim" of the ones I don't do. They all apply to one situation or another and I cannot permit that. My serenity is so important right now. Oh, and I pick up 90 days next Saturday at my AA mtg, and the following Wednesday at my NA meeting. I know we are supposed to do one day at a time, but I've come this far, I can plan on another week. Besides, it gives my a goal to work toward, and I am very goal oriented.
Much like Tina and Tex, I see these things in myself and no longer want them to be part of my life, however, I am in the beginning stages of trying to change my behaviors and feelings about myself that are based on codependency, and you posted this just when I needed it most.