I have been told at least 7 times in the last week that I am co-dependent.
I KNOW that I am co-dependent. I don't think being co-dependent is ALL BAD. I can see co-dependency being bad when it is UNHEALTHY. But, I think that some of my co-dpendency makes me feel good.
I don't understand what is so wrong with wanting or needing other people to help build my self-esteem or to give me compliments to make me feel better if I am down. Or what is wrong with wanting to be with someone....if being with someone makes you happy? If I say I haven't been with my boyfriend for 2 weekends in a row....and I am getting SAD....people say I'm co-dependent...OK! Than I'm co-dependent. I told my boyfriend sometimes I need a little push to have incentive to do something and then once I do it...I realize I enjoy it....people call that co-dependency. If my kids are in pain or in harms way...I react with depression and can't live my life until I find a way to help them - co-dependency....NO...I just have a mothers love for my kids and want them to be ok. GEEZ. I understand this is a real term "co-dependency" and from other peoples prespective, I am HUGELY co-dependent. It just cracks me up that there is a word for everything. How about that is just the type of person I am?