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Old 07-18-2011, 04:27 AM   #1
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How do you move on?

My husband, who hid his cybersex, porn and cross dressing addictions from me is now living in a homeless shelter. I am pregnant with our second child. I know now that I can't stop him from doing what his is doing and it took 3 times of catching him to know for sure. How do I let go and move on while also allowing my son and our new baby to know their father? I genuinely think he may be a sociopath, but I don't know for sure. If he is, I am not sure how to handle the situation, as I don't want him around our children if this is the case.

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Old 07-25-2011, 02:04 PM   #2
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Re: How do you move on?

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How do I let go and move on while also allowing my son and our new baby to know their father? I genuinely think he may be a sociopath, but I don't know for sure. If he is, I am not sure how to handle the situation, as I don't want him around our children if this is the case.
Hello budnbeansmama,

If he is to see his offspring,make sure that he understands that the visits must be supervised.

Don't take no for an answer.

Explain to him that he has to prove he wants to change and if not,there is no other way he will be allowed to see them.

I seriously doubt he will try to fight you in court for custody.
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How do you move on?....

By knowing that he is not the person you thought him to be and tapping into your inherant need to keep your children safe.

Take into consideration that your quality of living with him in the picture is dramatically reduced and he cannot bring anything to the table to help create one big,happy family.

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Old 08-27-2011, 04:48 PM   #3
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Re: How do you move on?

First and formost, I just want to express how sorry I am to hear that you and your precious, innocent children have to even know people like that exist and suffer for his selfishness.

I believe that Phoenix is very correct on all points. If he isn't enriching and bring joy peace and happyness into your family's life BANISH him from your lives!!

Just know that your sociopath IS A PREDATOR! And sociopath's prey upon the kindest and most loving people. They are insecure and void of morals themselves and want to bring that part of humanity in their lives via YOU.

RUN RUN RUN. Worrying about taking care of HIS emotions is taking away from your emotional wellbeing.

I need a good does of my own advice. I am 12 weeks pregnant with a crack addict's child. I had to leave him. He is desprate to be involved in the child's life and doesn't understand why I am having nothing to do with him.

It is sinking in that as a soon to be mom, that I cannot mother and worry about this adult man's life. He need's to get with the program or stay away.

I believe that the father is a sociopath, too.

I will be praying for you, tonight.

Nothing is impossible with the Lord.

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