Originally Posted by annarazor
I've been with this guy for about five years. The start of our relationship was rocky due to the fact that his girlfriend was still living with him..
how do i stand up for myself? What do i do..? I don't even know if i want to be alone or if i can be able to handle it...I fear the depression that will take over too.. if i go then he's never gonna talk (or so he says) to me again which scares me so much and if i don't then i'm still stuck in this toxic negative relationship that i care about but it can't be what it was ever again.. much less live my life or find out who i am now..
With all due respect,it appears that the relationship was doomed from the very start.
Please try referring to the first two sentences of your thread as a reference point.
The only way for you to find out who you truly are is by spending time alone;apart from this person.
He will always pose as a distraction; whether intentionally or otherwise.
Initially you may feel saddened but it pales in comparison to feeling completely miserable.
The healthy part of you wants better for yourself and I couldn't agree more.