Hi there, this is my first post on this board. I've did a search on here to see if anyone has dealt with someone who uses anabolic steroids and it came up zero results. Anyway, while browsing just now I came across a post where the woman said she was pretty much consumed by the addict she was dating and it sounded similar to my situation.
The person in my life is a long-time friend of mine of 8 years that I met at my gym. He's used anabolic steroids for at least 6 or 7 of those years. He can be very verbally abusive at times to me yet sweet as pie other times. When he's happy, I'm happy. When he's upset, he blames me, or I in turn, blame myself. I've never thought of him as an addict and/or our friendship as being co-dependent until now. I grew up in an alcoholic home, and even went to Al-Anon, so I should know what co-dependency and addiction looks like, though, you would think. My husband is also an alcoholic. There's also a lot of sexual tension between my friend and I because we're attracted to each other and with me being married, that causes its own set of problems. He's highly sexually charged because of the steroids obviously too. I must say that the attraction for him has waned, though, as our friendship gets more co-dependent. He's a lot to deal with and I guess because of that he just doesn't thrill me like that anymore. Also, my sex drive is basically nill, too, as I'm going through perimenopause. Just wondering what you all think about this. At the moment we're estranged due to an argument. Our friendship is up and down at times, like a roller coaster. It's crazy.