Going Out on a Limb and Now I look crazy
I just broke off with a friend whom I have known and loved for over 30 years. She is not only a old friend but an ex-lover. But she is also a narcissist. And 3 different times over those 30 years I thought our relationship was going some place it will never be. Then, I tried being just friends with her.I moved up to Minnesota to help her our with her yard and garden because she had rotater cuff surgery last year and can't do anything anymore. Trouble is I found out.. that our entire relationship for 30 years was based on the things I could do for her..never what our friendship was to each other. To make a long story short. The more I went out of my way for her the more verbally abusive she got with me. Even the very second I was cutting her grass or doing her yard work. She would stand there and belittle me while I was busting my *** for her. As time wore on the past few months she started insulting me to my face, over the phone and behind my back to friends. I finally walked out on her and left her standing in the yard talking to herself. But the damage was done for when she realized I wouldn't help her anymore..she really started to cut off ties with me.I sent a few emails and some not very nice. insuting back to her. She always called my email diatribes. Which let me know what I thought and felt didn't mean anything to her.When a friend won't listen to anything you have to say and shuts you out..you know it's over. I was obsessed with this woman for 30 years. I can't stop thinkign about her but I do want to keep her out of my life now. She is just too toxic to be around me.