He has destroyed me.... Desperate advice needed
I am struggling to determine whether my ex is an Narcissist.
He left his ex for me a year ago and moved straight in with me and my daughter. Within 2 weeks he had persuaded me to take out phone and PC contracts for him in my name (he said he had no credit rating)
I paid for 3 holidays this year with the promise of him paying me back, he took loads of cash off of me too and there was always a reason that he could not pay back.... He always lost jobs because of than his own fault.
Whenever we rowed, it would always be my fault! He started getting verbally and physically violent but would never apologise.
None of his stories made sense... He would brag about being in prison a few years back and how he was an ex marine.... He would tell everyone this within 5 mins of meeting them? But dates did not add up!
I caught him lying so many times, he left me once and a bottle of champagne went missing... I asked him why he would take that as he hurt me enough by leaving and not paying me back? He said it broke and got angry that I suggested he took it... When we reconciled a week later I found the champagne at his parents house... He even tried to give it back to me as a gift for breaking the other one... But I worked out it was the same bottle? Caught out! And he tried to act as if he was doing something nice for me when I was right all along!
I have shamefully found myself begging for his return, but he just ignores me!
10k of debt in one year and last I heard he was swanning round with the latest gadgets whilst I am paying off his debts in my name.... How can he not feel guilt? He old not even give me my phone back.... He said it got broke but I know he has sold it.....
I have been off work for 3 months with depression over this and he is off on holiday to New York tomorrow.... What about my money?
How can he not feel guilt?
How can he be so happy after what he has done to me... Everyone at the pubs loves him, his family blame me... I want to scream... Nobody believes me.
I still want and love this man..... What is wrong with me?
Is he a narcissist or have I come a cross this to try and find an answer.....
Will he contact me again?
Not heard from him for 4 days since I texted him to say I have realised he does not love me and I will leave him alone now... Thought he would reply but has not...
Please help me, I am rock bottom.
Last edited by Administrator; 12-13-2012 at 11:26 PM.