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Old 09-28-2004, 05:58 PM   #1
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My 2 greatgrandmothers both around 90 died within the last 4 years and I was depressed for a while, expecially by the way they ended their last few days (not thinking straight). My cat (19 yrs.) has cancer in her front foot and it is only a matter of time before she dies, also my favorite teacher's dad died during the week I was sick so that didn't help me any. I'm not afraid of death, but I hate it when others die. (I don't know if my life is really worth living any way because everyone else would apparently be better off without me).

Since there is only 1 thread here you can reply to, I decided to make one about who recently died or will die.

 
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Re: Recently Died

[QUOTE= (I don't know if my life is really worth living any way because everyone else would apparently be better off without me).QUOTE]


i am sorry you are having a hard time. i was 15 when i realized i would actually die. i hate the thought too. why do you feel the way i outlined in your quote?
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Well I'm sorry to hear about your great grandmothers and your cat who has cancer and teacher's dad. I can relate to how you feel. I'm sure everyone can at sometime or another. My step-father who was very close to me died in November 2003 of liver cancer. He had no symptoms until it was too late for them to do anything and when they told him he had 6 months to live, he really only had a week and a half. His mother (my grandmother) died in August. I think after having her son die, she felt she had nothing to live for and she stopped taking care of herself. Just before she died, I thought I was getting over my step-father's death, but when she died, i realized I hadn't, and it brought back a lot of bad memories. It made me realize there's no time frame on grieving for someone you care about. It's been almost a year since my step-father passed away and I'm still in the process of grieving. It can take years for some people.

When my step-father died, I was really angry at "God" because I couldn't understand why he had to take MY step dad away, and why he had to have such a painful death, but i understand now thats just part of life, and no one knows exactly when they're going to die, or how they're going to die.
Even though my step father has passed on, he lives on through my memories. I believe he's with me at all times just in a better place watching over my family and I. I even talk to him and say "goodnight" and "I love you" to him every night(sounds crazy, but thats what makes me feel better). I think having my step-dad die has not made me fear death, but in a way its made me understand it a bit better. I know one day when I die I'll hopefully get to see all the people I love and care about who have passed on before me.

 
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Sorry to hear about your losses.

My grandad passed away 2 days ago from lung cancer. I'm finding it really hard. The last time my parents went to visit him I decided not to go, but now I feel really awful because I should have gone with them. I don't think I really believed that he would ever die even though he was so ill and now he has, I just wish I had said goodbye. People in my family have died before. My 2 uncles (my grandad's sons) passed away when I was younger, but I wasn't really close to them so it didn't effect me too much. This is much worse. It really hurts to think that I'll never get to see him again. He was such a wonderful person. And it makes me realise how cruel life is. It was just 3 months between the diagnosis and the day he passed away.

Anyway, take care of yourselves... Phoebe xx

 
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I am sorry to hear about everyone's losses. Death is one of the hardest parts of living I think. It's something you never get over, you just learn to deal with it the best that you can. I've experinence my own losses in the past few years. I first lost my dad, who was only 45, to a freak occurrence during a knee surgery, this was especially hard since it was so sudden and unexpected. Not a day goes by where I don't think of him, I was a "Daddy's Girl." My whole life has changed in less than four years, he died in Dec. 2000, after my first semester of college. It's hard for me to see other people who still have their fathers, I'll never be able to have my dad walk me down the aisle or anything, that's a horrible feeling. My mom has remarried and lives in a different house w/her new husband. I feel welcomed there,but it's not home. I have really lost my sense of belonging somewhere, my life I knew is gone and it is very foreign to me. Also I lost my great uncle and my grandmother in consecutive years to lung cancer. Previous to that, my ohter grandmother died of a burst anerism. I've often felt ovewhelmed at times, the whole why me situtation, and I know people are in a lot worse situations than me. At least I had my dad for 18 years, some people never get to know their parents. Anyway, I'm still coping, taking one day at a time. You never forget, but you learn how to manage your overwhelming feelings of grief, confusion and anger.

 
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