just lost good friend - Death & Dying Message Board

bloodytears · 11-15-2004, 09:21 PM

my good friend was in a fatal car crash last week and didnt make it... I found out today and I don't know how to deal with this. I have dealt with many deaths in my life, although I am only 20. I have had a basestfriend kill herself, and many family members pass on, and still others close to me, go in other ways. But for some reason, I can't cry, I cant scream, i can't be mad, oreven feel, it's like im empty. i just want to get something out. its like i feel so deeply about this, that i cant feel...

tintx · 11-16-2004, 06:30 PM

Dear Tears,
I'm sorry you have to deal with yet another big loss in your life. From what you describe, it almost sounds like you've reached your capacity for grieving, but give it time for the shock to wear off. I can't say anything to change what you're feeling or make it better, but I want you to know someone hears you. Take care,
Tintx

Soulcatcher · 11-16-2004, 06:51 PM

There isn't a WAY to grieve. Don't worry that your not crying. Maybe for some reason your at peace with it knowing that your friend is ok now. I used to talk to my friend that died and it made me feel comfortable, almost like he was listening. Then one day a peace came over me and it was all ok. Start a journal, sometimes that helps to get out feelings or feelings that you seem to have put in your subconcious. Sorry that you have lost someone else. ^i^

kerry1 · 11-16-2004, 08:53 PM

I'm so sorry. Don't go through this alone. Maybe some grief counseling?

bloodytears · 11-17-2004, 05:49 PM

Thank you to all of you. It means a lot that you all replied to my post. I don't feel so alone. I have been able to write a tiny bit about how i feel about the whole situation and i feel a little comforted knowing shes not in pain or anything. I know it will take time... Thank you again... ~tears