Gran died - Death & Dying Message Board

TheTwo^Pigeons · 12-24-2004, 04:31 PM

hi my gran died last feburary, i really miss her. I called her gu because i couldnt pronounce mamgu (she was welsh) when i was little. my mum misses her the most and often cries out of knowwhere because they talked every night and the death was so sudden, of a stroke. now i cant help but thinking why am i not crying or feeling sad about her death, i feel guilty that im not thinking about her. i know she is up there looking at us and protecting us. but still i miss her so much and i feel guilty that im not feeling sad, i never even think about her. is there something wrong with me?

mtk21 · 12-26-2004, 07:25 PM

Definitely No!

There's nothing wrong with you!

Just because you aren't crying or feeling very sad about her doesn't mean you don't love her, and that she doesn't love you!

Some people just express their emotions differently, and you just miss her and feel kind of sad deep inside, while your mom expresses her emotions outside by crying.

This is a very common thing to happen, I know I've felt the same way you have too, but if you can ask yourself if you loved her and you can answer yes, then you shouldn't feel bad at all.