Help... - Death & Dying Message Board

Icantbeperfect · 01-27-2005, 06:12 PM

I've posted some other threads about my aunt dying in october (

) and I'm still having a hard time with it. I thought that i could always go to my friends but they're having a hard time understanding because only one has lost someone close to them at an age where it really effects them, its as if they all think that i can get over it after like 4 months, but the truth is i'll never be able to get over it, sure it may not always hurt as much as it hurts now but the hurt is always going to be there. I would never wish that they would go through what i had to go through just so they could understand me. I just want them to be there for me when i need to talk, but only the one friend listens and i dont want to have to dump on her all the time. What should i do to help them understand?? I have one idea but i havent gotten around to it yet, so i'm going to ask u what u think. I write stories a lot so i was thinking if i wrote a story about what i went through it would help me and them. What do u think???
-Icantbeperfect-

whatamess@35 · 02-01-2005, 05:08 PM

I think writing is a great release from things that bother us !!
I deal with pain that others just dont understand and get real tired of hearing
about!I dont blame tham but i need someone to talk to sometimes or ese i fear i will go insane!!I say go for it!!
I am very sorry about you losing your aunt!!
She will always be with you in your heart!

Icantbeperfect · 02-01-2005, 05:12 PM

thx for the advice.

Icantbeperfect · 02-01-2005, 06:22 PM

Now my friends r trying to tell me that they understand what i'm going through and that i should be over it by now, its been not even 4 months... how am i supposed to ignore these hurtful comments?

missamerica · 02-06-2005, 07:02 PM

maybe you should really make sure they r saying what u think they're saying. maybe they're really saying that they hope that you get over it soon as a friendly way because they hate seeing you so down, and maybe they really care about you and just want you to be okay. you're looking at these comments as hurtful when maybe you should think of it in a non negative perspective and look with respect to them and see that they're saying it with love. they probably just want the best for you, maybe you should thank them for being as supportive as they can without going through exactly what you have gone through...