quincy

Oh kitten, my deepest sincere condolences to you. I can understand the shock and severe loss this will have on you. I too had a long-time most dear person in my life die suddenly on New Years Eve a year ago. He held a very intimate part of me that is difficult to explain. His death brought forth many emotions....but interestingly, my fear of my own death has diminished since then.

I cannot imagine the loss for his wife, for I knew how wonderful a person he was. Through that, I know how devistated I'd be if my own husband died, and as I said....brought forth many emotions.

I've come to terms with his death, but it did take a year. I feel the loss still, but I now take much comfort that he was a part of my life rather than won't be anymore.

Take it a day at a time, and allow yourself to feel. If it's possible, be part of the healing process with his other friends. It takes time, and the emotions will be mixed.

Best to you,
quincy

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