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Old 05-23-2005, 08:56 AM   #1
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My Son's death

On Oct 14th 2003, a parents worst nightmare beacame a reality. It was 2:00
am and our son Brad came running up the stairs sobbing Jason is in the hospital in the er. Waking and trying to get it together, I remember wanting this so much to be a dream like it should have been, and being so angry that it was not. I called the hospital and the nurse gave me directions, but the last thing she said was take your time. I knew he was gone, but drove over 100 mph on a freeway to a hospital 40 miles away. All the time my poor wife crying out to God not to take her baby. Jason was 27 and the laughter in our life. He had just come off of a long bad relationship and was going to visit his ex's Mother. These are the sad facts as we have pieced them together. His ex's sister invites him over her house to watch Monday football.
These people were trailer trash. Someone spiked a joint with crack and Jason went into heart arrythmia. He was in terrible distress and they were only 1 mile from the hospital, but because 2 of them were wanted by the cops, they didn't call 911. They callled the Mother and she drove 10 miles
to the house. They probably told her he was having a panic attack and she gave him a xanax. This may have been what killed him, because he then went into convulsion, threw up and passed out. They tried resuscitation,
and finally called 911, here according to the bill, they worked on him for 30 munutes to no avail.
I almost committed suicide, but could not do that to my wife and other son. I was in the mental ward for 8 days. He is in my thoughts almost every second and I don't think I will ever come to grips, because it was a needless tragedy. I just hope that God is in control and there will be a time when we will all see our loved ones again. I too have seen way too much death in my life. My Mother died when I was 24, 3 months before I was to be married. My older brother died of cancer at 48.
Another brother died suddenly of an aneurysm. etc. etc.
God bless you all and if someone needs to talk, I am a good listener.
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dgugs; I am so sorry for your loss and want you to know you are not alone. You have been through so much and come sooo far. Thank you for not leaving your wife and son. They need you--now more than ever. You are a strong person and will get through this.
You will never forget your son or the tragic events surrounding his death, but time and your faith in God will enable you to come to terms with it. Jason may have died in a horrible environment, with horrible people, but you have the power to remember his love and laughter, and keep his memory alive, the way you knew him to be in life. And please keep the faith. You have a guardian angel--one who watches out for you. I'm a mother, but have not lost a child I've given birth to. I've lost a baby (not "fullterm") and others close to me as well, I've been the sister, daughter, friend and girlfriend in deaths. Never the Mom or wife.
That which does not kill us makes us stronger. (easy for me to say, I know)
Hang in there.
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dgugs; I am so sorry for your loss and want you to know you are not alone. You have been through so much and come sooo far. Thank you for not leaving your wife and son. They need you--now more than ever. You are a strong person and will get through this.
You will never forget your son or the tragic events surrounding his death, but time and your faith in God will enable you to come to terms with it. Jason may have died in a horrible environment, with horrible people, but you have the power to remember his love and laughter, and keep his memory alive, the way you knew him to be in life. And please keep the faith. You have a guardian angel--one who watches out for you. I'm a mother, but have not lost a child I've given birth to. I've lost a baby (not "fullterm") and others close to me as well, I've been the sister, daughter, friend and girlfriend in deaths. Never the Mom or wife.
That which does not kill us makes us stronger. (easy for me to say, I know)
Hang in there.
Happyelf
Thank You for your kind words. It's people like you that make life worth living.

 
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Glad I could help. Remember if you need anything, the boards are here for support.
H/E

 
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Dgugs, I am so sorry for your loss(es). I'm so glad you decided against doing yourself in. I know it must be impossibly hard for you at times, but stay strong and know that your son is surrounded by nothing but love and joy now.

I lost my parents as a young child, all my grandparents, several aunts and a husband. Last year I nearly lost my son twice to suicide, once by hanging and once by overdose. Sometimes I feel the grim reaper likes my family a bit too much and suicide has definitely crossed my mind several times, but like you I couldn't ever really do it b/c I know the pain it would cause firsthand.

I don't know why people like us have to endure so much tragedy but if I ever get to meet God, I intend to ask. It's really tough sometimes. I wish you and your family nothing but happiness from this point on. Bless you all.

 
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