Re: how to cope with father dying
1 second at a time. No matter how a loved one dies, there is no way to cope with it, as well as being ready to deal with their passing. My dad passed away suddenly. He had just had a complete physical including for heart disease and cancer three weeks before he passed away. I have had several people tell me how lucky we were because we did not have to watch him die a slow painful death. I come from a very large family so I have also watched a love one die after a long battle with cancer.
First let me say, the last thing I felt when my dad died was lucky. I learned that whether it is a long painful death or a very sudden passing, there is no way to really cope. Each day brings things that you must deal with and so your body just goes through the motions. So what you do is, you wake up everyday and you know for that second of that day, you were able to cope. Each day will bring different challanges, so don't think that you must deal with it all at the same time. Give yourself some time to breathe.