I don't know what's keeping my mom going
My mom will be 80 in September, and has suffered with a bad heart all her life. She has been steadily going downhill for over a year. She is down to 71 pounds, a very weak heart, has blue fingertips 90% of the time, has no appetite, grey pasty skin, venus stasis ulcers and mottling on her legs, really all the symptoms of someone on their death bed.
She still insists on going to church every Sunday and I am starting to get people yelling at me for having her out of the house. They don't understand how stubborn she is and, as a daughter, I was taught well to always obey my parents, and at 47 I still can't tell her no when she wants to do something. Everyone is commenting to me that she is close to death.
How does someone keep going with so much weighing against them? She does have a pacemaker, can that be keeping her going?
And how do I lock out the comments being made by everyone in our town about how she shouldn't be out of the house when she still wants to keep going? It would be much easier on me and my family if she did agree to just stay in - it's a 1/2 hour ordeal to get her from her house to my car, and then anouther 1/2 to get her back in the house, she needs so much help.
Am I mistreating her by not making her stay home?
I really need someone to make me understand how a body can just keep going on sheer will like she is, and help me to deal with the comments of our family and friends.