Re: Is there a right way to act?
You make a lot of sense.
You are not judged by the amount of tears or lack of them to gage the depth of your love for a person. Your daughter is just looking out for your health feeling that if you keep it all in -- you will be sick when its over. But your body will tell you when its had enough.
Everyone grieves in their own way.
However, you have a relationship with someone dying but you are blessed in a way some others aren't because you have time to talk with them. Tell them what they meant in your life, how you were proud of them when . . .
Hospice has books or pamphlets that helps you know all of this.
the most important thing is that you and everyone else, especially your Dad has to give permission to her to go when the time comes. She will not be at peace if she knows that her passing will cause some pain.
Plus there may be two things that would happen and you have to prepare yourself for it -- you will shoot the messenger but here goes . . .
Your father's grieving, being with her for so long, may have him rushing into a relationship with someone else because he may not know how to be alone. Especially if he doesn't live with you or siblilngs. Or second . . .
your father may miss her so very much, he wouldn't last that much longer after she goes so be there for him, keep him active, busy and most of all in this world showing him how important he is and that he has a lot more living to do.
This is a difficult time. I'll keep you in my prayers. But talk, talk, talk. It'll get you through the time.