Trying to guess how long my mum has
Sadly I believe my mum is dying. She has cancer which was being treated but she had various complications and she is now back in hospital. Unfrotunately it has been difficult to get much information from the doctors there.
My mum stopped eating probably 2 weeks ago now, and was taken back into hospital about 1 week ago. All the signs appear to be of her dying -
she is virtually not eating at all
she has lost huge amounts of weight rapidly, to extent her eye are sunk back into her head
skin in her legs has beceome ulcerated for no clear reasons
her breathing is shallow / irregular
she is confused or often not communicating although most of the time asleep. When she talks (very little) it is often nonsense or even paranoid delusions
When awake she has her eyes nearly fully closed and her mouth hangs open, both I think signs of no energy / body shutting down
Her hands are ice cold
She is pulling at sheets in repeated twitching motion
Most of the above I've seen elsewhere as signs of impending death. But all sites that describe them as such dont define "impending" - I dont know whether they mean hours, days or weeks. Problem is I've got to try and let relatives who are abroad know whether to come over now or in a week ro two, or whatever.
This may all sound very cold, but I dont want to go into emotional side of things here as I'm struggling to cope with multiple family members with cancer and if I concentrate on practical things I just might hold it together awhile....
If anybody can offer any advice as to what these symptoms mean in practical terms - whether they are likely to mean my mum has only hours or days or simply that she is slipping away but could still be with us for weeks or even more, I'd be very grateful.
One thing I'm unsure of but prob just my ignorance, I cant see why my mum is in hospital rather than a hospice. Dont know what is normal ?
Thank you vey much.