Ex-boyfriend's mother passed away - what should I do?
My ex-boyfriend's mom died on Saturday, and I am wondering whether or not it would be appropriate for me to attend the visitation and/or service. I was with him for almost 9 years, and we have been broken up for over 12 years. Our breakup was not the greatest; he was very bitter and felt I left him for no reason; it's a long story. I moved on rather quickly, but he hasn't had a girlfriend since me.
I'm torn between paying my respects to someone who was a part of my life for such a long time, versus staying away so as to not make my ex uncomfortable. He can be immature and irrational sometimes (part of why we broke up), so I don't want there to be a scene because of me. I haven't talked to him since just a few months after our breakup, and haven't physically seen him in about 8 years. My mom has spoken to him and his mom a few times over the years, so she mentioned about possibly going. However, neither of them attended my father's funeral back in 2001.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.