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Old 05-21-2010, 02:10 PM   #1
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Can anyone help me understand how long my mom has to suffer?

My mom has been fighting colon ca for a lil over 3 years. She has been off chemo since december (3 anaphylactic reactions). Ever since shes been off chemo she has had constant problems. She has had 2 surgeries for gi obstruction. her abdomen, back, bladder, lymph nodes are full of ca. Anyways, i know shes getting close to death because she looks like death... her eys bulge, her teeth bulge, her face is saggin, she is in constant pain and nausea. no appetite, does drink some dluids. Doesn't eat. Anyways, can anyone tell me their story or help me understand this process? I know its never case specific but any input would do. Thanks.

 
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Old 05-21-2010, 02:46 PM   #2
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Re: Can anyone help me understand how long my mom has to suffer?

there are several great groups out there to help . The best one is hospice.
I was lucky enough to have them with me ar the end of my moyhers life
sometimes i think they me and my family more than they did my mother
so why not ask your mothers doctor and he can help you get in contact with your local chapter.


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Old 05-21-2010, 02:58 PM   #3
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Re: Can anyone help me understand how long my mom has to suffer?

Thanks for the reply.. my mom is doing hospice at home. Like I mentioned she has been off chemo since january.. had surgery late march. My question is mainly how long does she have to suffer.. she has no quality of like. <edited>

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Old 05-23-2010, 02:15 PM   #4
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Re: Can anyone help me understand how long my mom has to suffer?

my mother died about 6 weeks after her first obstruction......the last surgery was about 5 days before her death. No one knows how long they will suffer......I know how badly you want to know, I was the same way. By what your describing, it wouldnt be too much more. A sign for us was that her kidneys shut down about 2 days prior. She had a catheter in but the bag stopped filling. So you might keep an eye on that.
Im sorry for her suffering and what you have to endure also. God bless you!

 
Old 05-24-2010, 03:00 PM   #5
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Im touched by all your responses. Ty. And plz keep them coming it really helps one cope! Thanks soo much.

 
Old 05-28-2010, 07:02 PM   #6
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Re: Can anyone help me understand how long my mom has to suffer?

So sorry about your mom. My dad is going through similar experience with cancer. Have you made visits with her to the doctor to be present to ask questions? That helped me in the beginning.

 
Old 06-08-2010, 11:40 AM   #7
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Ok. Update. My mom passed on 6/6/10 at 330am. Thanks soo much for your responses.

 
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God bless you and keep you strong. My love to you and your mother. Im sure she was a wonderful person. She didnt deserve this but she was strong and held up a long time. You can be proud of her and be proud of yourself as her caretaker. You showed love that not many can even comprehend. God Bless

 
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Life is something else. The way one suffers. The way you can live life as moral as possible and still have no promise kept to you other than sorrow, pain, and death. But it's after life here is gone that it becomes beautiful, that you're promised an ever lasting happiness and a beautiful tomorrow. Your mother just got a head start, and I'm jealous.
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