jamesinUK

Hi, part of this question isn’t for this section but i hope someone can offer some advice.

A friend has recently lost her father, which she is finding very difficult to deal with, there is also an added issue which she now has to deal with. Her mum is also pretty poorly, she has mental health issues as far as i know, she finds it hard doing a lot on her own, although her mum used to do some things, since the dad died she seems to need everything doing for her, my friend also said her mum won’t accept that he has died.

Her mum isn’t eating much at all, and won’t go out or do anything by herself, she also says a lot she wants to die.

My friend has had to quit her full time job to look after her mum not 24/7, which is a big blow to her, plus one of the biggest issues is my friend hasn’t gotten over her dad and needs time for that and feels pretty helpless about everything, to make things worse her family aren’t being much help about it all, i suggested she needs full time care and she said the family would disown her if she done that.

I asked her to go to her gp and ask what she can do and the gp said you will have to care for your mum and didn’t offer any type of help.

So my question is in this section how can my friend cope with everything and the death while everything else is going on, is there anything she can do for help for herself?

I guess the other question is is there any help at all for her mum, i know this might be the wrong section for this, but its too closely related to the issue of her dad, bearing in mind the gp hasn’t offered anything and she feels her family will disown her if she gets some type of carer.

Any advice would be welcome.

Thanks

James