I have been here in Killeen about 10 years. My husband recently retired from the Army, which is what brought us here in the first place, but I am originally from Mississippi, which is where my niece lived.
Yes, her children were home. Her son is 5 years old and her daughter is 3 years old. The som says he went to a neighbors to play and when he came back "mommy wouldn't wake up." The 3 year old was sleeping. The only other person that we know of that was at the house that day her husband. Who left for work around the same time the son went out to play. One time the son stated that his mommy wouldn't wake up for him or his daddy, but when asked about it again, he said daddy left for work. So...we don't know if something possible happened after the son went out to play, if someone came to the house while he was at the neighbors, or..if she just sat down and died. We do not want to make her son talk about it, we are just trying to gently get answers when he brings it up, but he will say something, then put his hand over his mouth as if to say he can't talk about it or doesn't want to talk about it and we certainly don't want to force him to talk about it.
He broke my heart last night because he was playing the Wii and one of the little characters had his mom's name on it. He told me that was his mom's name and he wanted to play her character, so I told him to go ahead, I would watch him play. He then said, "my mom is dead." I said "I know baby, but we are all so proud of you for going to get help for your mom. You did such a good job." He said; "yeah, I know. I will just be glad when she comes back alive. I am going to hug her and hug her." I had to leave the room, I got so upset. It was at that moment we (my sister & I) realized, he did not understand what death was. He thinks his mom went somewhere and is coming back. His father had told us, he talked to him and explained death, heaven and angels and he understood, but I guess that isn't the case. I hope he will take our advice and get both of these babies counceling. They are both already showing signs of being angry and their behavior has changed. They go back to their dad in MS on Sunday. I know it will be so hard for my sister to let them go.
Please do not misunderstand me...we are not accusing her husband, or anyone else for that matter of harming her, but at this point there are so many questions, I think we are trying to think of any and all possibilities. I pray to God that it was natural and something none of us could have predicted or prevented.
thank you for your replys i will post as soon as i get my sons results i hope we all get answers its not ever going to bring our loved ones back but we do need to know i think most poisins would show up the only one ive heard that dosnt show up is insulin but thats only what ive been told xxxx
I heard the same thing about insulin and have been researching everything I can get my hands on to see if this is true-how much would have had to be administered and whether it would have to be injected or if could have been ingested. So far, I don't know for sure any of those details, but will keep looking.
I will also be sure to post, if/when we get some answers.
Thanks to everyone one here for such wonderful support.
I was thinking the same thing Sharon. I guess if you know someone who is diabetic, it wouldn't be that hard to get, but I hate to think that way. I try to get my mind to go other directions because I honestly do not think anyone would harm my niece and I pray the same for your son.
I am sure that in the coming weeks we will get the answers we so desperately need and I hope you do too.
hi chatty i think we all tend to suspect foul play but im sure they would have checked that mabie we just look for an answer to why it happened ive had some strange things going on in my head did they let the burual or cremation go ahead they did with my son and as it was cremation the took samples to check i know in our heads we feel that its impossible for a young healthy person just to die my son was dancing to the wi in a neighboures house with his daghter a few hours before he died but i know we might not get any answers and that makes it so much worse right now im pushing everyone away from me as i feel suicidal but i supose i wouldnt be normal if i didnt feel that way xxxx
In the case of my niece the burial did go ahead. It took us 4 days to get her back from the state examiner's office and she was buried on day 6. They also took samples from her and sent them off to some specialty lab in another state.
It is so scary to think we may never have answers. Like your son, my niece was in the best mood hours before. We were talking on Facebook and planning a family reunion--she was so excited about having the whole family together.
My sister is so depressed and I am afraid she is suicidal. I live 2 hours from her but I try to call her several times a day and check on her. SHe has a son and 4 grandchildren so I do not think she would ever take her own life and do that to them, plus we lost my sister to cancer a few years back and I think she knows our mother would never survive losing another child, so I don't think she would ever intentionally harm herself, but I am scared she will grieve herself to death. I am heartbroken over our loss, so I can only imagine what you & my sister are feeling.
Like you, we have all had things going through our heads about what could have happened. maybe we just need someone to blame when something like this happens, but if the person we feel may have harmed my niece is innocent of doing anything, he sure isn't helping matters with his actions.
I know everything will be chacked out and we will get an answer or at least an answer as to whether or not it was foul play. If we never know the exact cause it will drive us all insane because like you said, it is hard to imagine someone who is completely healthy just dying with no explanation.
I am always here if you need to talk and I will send you my email address if you would like. We can't change things for one another, but it is nice to know someone out there truly understands what you are going through.
i know what u are all going through i have 2 other children who try to stay away from us as much as possible i know they need help to deal with this but i cant help them or ourselfs i hope we both get some answers soon god bless take care xxxx
I wanted to jump on here and tell you how sorry I am for you and your family's loss, as well. Two years ago my 31 year old brother in law died. He was at a cook out, had been playing volleyball all day, and was sitting down in a chair telling hunting stories when he closed his eyes for the last time. We were/are all devastated. He always included everbody, and lived for family get togethers. In many ways he brought our family closer together, as we were not always a real tight knit clan, prior to my sister marrying him. They had twin three year old girls, and my sister has been a mess ever since. I still have my down days a couple of years later. Our situation is a little different than yours in that the autopsy revealed one of the arteries going to his heart was actually too narrow for blood to get back in. Apparently it was a birth defect that gave him absolutey no symptoms. The hard part, and the one I wish would not have been shared with us, is that it was an easy fix had it been diagnosed. Anyway, I know its different, but I just wanted to tell you how sorry I was, and I too hope you get the answers you desire. I remembered the pain of first knowing when I read your first post, and of course do not wish it on anybody. Take care.
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Oh my goodness! I am so sorry for your family's loss as well. Thank you for sharing your story.
I really think with my niece it will turn out to be an arrhythmia. Of course when it first happened, I thought aneurysm, then I thought maybe a bllod clot (she had been in a bad car wreck 3 months prior)-it turned out to be none of those, so then we remembered she had a cyst removed from the very top of her leg, near her groin, very close to the artery about 3 years ago and had told my mother that it felt as though it was coming back, just 2 weeks prior...so then I thought sepsis or something to do with infection and that artery, but still the coroner said that wasn't it. I even thought maybe she had taken something for the pain in her leg and took too much or forgot she took it and took more, but they found nothing in her system. For about 2 months prior to her death, it seemed like she stayed sick--always had a headache/stomach ache and just never felt good.
I would rather it be an arrythmia than it turn out to be something that if caught in time could have been fixed--I am so sorry your family is having to deal with that. I will keep you all, especially your sister and those babies in my prayers.
Again, thank you for sharing this.
Hugs & prayers,
hello chatty just waiting to see if you get any word we are still waiting its not 5 weeks till saturday and they say it takes from 8 ti 10 weeks plz your sister might feel suicidal as i do but she will be finding it so hard to cope all i do is cry i know im being selfish as my son hated when i was upset so i try not to but most of the time i cant help myself if you get any word plz let me know
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