My friends husband just died, am I doing the right things?
The thing with me and my friend is that she is in her 50ís and Iím in my early 20ís. We met through a hobby and became good friends. My friend just lost her husband (whom I was also close with) VERY suddenly. Early last week she came home and found him dead. He had some health problems but it was a SHOCK. When I found out I went out to her house immediately but she wasnít there. I went out that night and brought water, toilet paper, paper platesÖwhatever I could think of. I stayed for about 3 hours, she got a little weepy but she did laugh a little. Her children were there as were some other family that night. I braved a foot of snow to get to the wake, went to the funeral, burial, and dinner. I sent a sympathy card and some friends and I went in on flowers. She seems to be doingÖokay. Better than I expected. Her daughter is leaving today and she hasnít been out of the house in a week. I enabled texting on my phone (something I never had before) so we can text because she doesnít like talking on the phone. My mother says that Iím bothering her, Iíve been watching for signs that I am but every time I text her she texts right back. The conversations arenít long with we are keeping in contact. I keep offering my help with anything but she keeps saying that she doesnít need anything. My mother keeps telling me to just leave her be but she doesnít really have any family in town and Iím worried. My friend isnít a touchy feely type of person and she doesnít really have people over to her house, we go out to dinner or hang out at our hobby. Does anyone who has been through this have some advice? Can I do more? Am I smothering? Iím just very worried about her. And quite honestly, I miss her.