Hello, I am unemployed and not in school, and I am feeling really lonely. I am really bored and sleepy, and well, depressed I guess. Does anybody have any ideas on how to feel better? Most of all I feel really lonely, I wish I had someone to share time with and go to the zoo or something , but I do not know have any friends I can spend time with. It feels really depressing.
I have a hard time getting up in mornings and even during the day, and I just feel like lying in bed and reading magazines. I feel sad because I wonder if my life is wasting away. But I feel to tired to do anything too. I don't know where to get the energy. It sucks.
It is very embarassing, but I haven't even washed my face or taken a bath in a week, because I feel so tired. I don't know what to do
Do a search for the symptoms of depression. Depression is a real disease & can change the way we think & leave us with no motivation to do anything. Most of what you said does sound like depression, but you should do a search & compare the symptoms & see if you have more of them, then if you do, make an appointment with your family doctor that is the place to start. He may refer you to a specialist or just prescribe meds.
This is a good place to come to talk to others who also feel lonely & alone due to depression. Welcome.
I agree with Lori that you should consider the possiblity of depression.
You may also want to examine your lifestyle. If you're not working or going to school or "plugging in" somehow, I think that feelings of isolation and boredom are inevitable. Depression soon follows.
Or you may have withdrawn BECAUSE of depression. It's hard to know what came first in your case.
As Dr. Phil would say, we need some passion in our life. We need something that we're interested in. Try to find that for yourself and persue that. A good counselor could help you sort out what that is!
I recommend that you consider the possibility of depression and, if appropriate, look for help with that. I also recommend that you try to force yourself to get up and get out. It may not feel good at first, but I think it will help you in the long run.
You probably feel like not doing anything which is easy during depression, but truth be told that is the worst thing you can do. It's best to try and keep active at something for this will help more then you may think; this along with the feedback already given.
Wish for you the best.
Last edited by Thunderbolt; 04-17-2004 at 06:39 PM.
Thank you lori J . I have had a full exam and was checked by the doctor to make sure nothing else was wrong, I was told it was depression, or in my mind. All the feelings of tiredness and lack of energy I mean. Thank you for your suggestions - yes I am supposed to make sure I have the support that I need. I am supposed to have a therepist and a phychiatrist. My Dr. wants me to find a phychiatrist. After months of looking - very slowly I found one.
I need a therepist though. It is such an awful feeling. I don't want it to sound like I am making excuses, but just picking up the phone and talking to people seems like the hugest task. Even peeing feels like the hugest task. It took me a week just to get here on the computer.
My mother has been bringing me food. One day I didn't eat because she couldn't bring me food that day. I don't know what to do. When I suddenly get a spurt of energy I somehow lose it. I went outside last week, and thought I was out of the "well" I fell in. And it somehow went away, and now I have been bed bound again, even worse than before.
I can't seem to get up the energy to help myself. But maybe now I will do something after I get off this computer- yet I don't know what.
Well I'll stop complaining now.
Thank you Index. html. and Thunderbolt. I really like watching the Dr. Phil show. I have been watching it trying to get my energy up and inspired by it.
Yes. I have the insight that I need to 'find my passion. The only thing is I can't seem to find it. It scares me. A few weeks ago. I was scared. I was feeling very detached from everything and it scared me very much.Almost like I felt completely no interest in anything and even when I make myself do things I feel so completely detached from them and this earth. It makes me cry somethimes.
I am wondering whether I should be hospitalized. I would like that. But I do not know if my problem is severe enough, even though I have had thoughts of suicide. (I hope I am allowed to say that) Currently, this weekI am not having thoughts of suicide. But I am very very tired. Sorry this is so long.
I don't want it to sound like I am making excuses, but just picking up the phone and talking to people seems like the hugest task...
Well I'll stop complaining now...
Boy, can I relate to the not being able to pick up the phone! When I'm really depressed, making phone calls is nearly impossible. My doctor has gotten irritated with me before for waiting so long to call; she just doesn't understand how overwhelming talking on the phone and scheduling an appointment can be when you are "down a well".
I really encourage you to do it anyway! At least get going with the therapist! If you're open to medication (a personal decision), then call the psychiatrist, too. Please, please, PLEASE do it tomorrow!!!
Let us know how it goes!
Oh, and never feel like you're complaining too much here. That's what the board is for!
Oh... you have NO idea how much I understand you... in my lowest point the most exciting moment of my day would be my little trip to the bathroom because I wouldn't leave my bed for anything more than that. Let's say I perfectly know my ceiling right now.
I know how much it costs to get out, but you know what? I had no friends either (except for friends in school and I didn't feel like talking about what was going on my mind) and right now I'm in a fantastic group of friends, I'm even "flirting" (is that the word?) with one of my friends and just with that we have a lot of fun... if you would have told me 2 months ago that I would do that I would just laughed at you because it was impossible in my mind...
But yes, I do think we all need a helping hand... you won't go out for yourself, you need someone to drag you out of your bed as my sister did... at that time I wanted to kill her because she was bugging me so much but right now I thank her with all my heart because she pushed me out of the step I was standing in.
Ok, I better stop my blahbing... If you're open to therapist, meds and all that, then I also suggest you to pick up the phone and do it... it could be like fresh air to you... and if it doesn't work out at first, it can't get worse than what you're going through right now, right?
Hope you're feeling better and I hope to see you around, you'll see what a great place this is... and you'll realize that the first step to help yourself is this one: coming here is the best thing you could do
* Excuse my sometimes poor English, it's not my primary language *
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One thing that would help is to try and walk every day. Start out with 10 minutes, and work up to 30 minutes or an hour. Walking will help to "oil" that body, in a sense, plus it raises all the good neurotransmitters in the brain, which are natural antidepressants. I feel exactly as you do, exhausted all the time. Today is Sunday at 7:30 pm and I still am in my pj's and have not taken a shower yet. I am trying to follow the same advice that I am giving you (to start walking every day). I am staring at my treadmill as I write this, and my mind is making up every excuse in the book not to get on it (like, it's too late in the day, I really need to rest more, or I should read the newspaper). It's a fight, but it's a start.
Maybe some of us can make a pact? Perhaps we can promise each other that we'll walk every day and report back here, whether we made it that day or not, and if not, we'll encourage each other to do it the following day! No judgments, just some kind, loving support and prodding. Hang in there!!!
Hi guys, I could have written this thread myself, so I felt compelled to respond.
I've been on and off meds for just over a year now. In many ways I feel I haven't made any progress, but as I sit here typing, I KNOW that I am several light years from where I was last year, when I was in the hospital for three months.
I guess what I'm trying to say, is in this place that you are at right now, nothing will seem to work, therapy, meds, etc....and you don't have the energy or desire to "get help", but it you're here, and that's the first step. I still have many terrible moments of self doubt, and there are times that I don't shower or brush my teeth, but as I am sure many here will (and have) attest, IT DOES GET BETTER!!!