Re: trying to help someone with depression
I'm so sorry that you and your father are having to deal with this. It sounds absolutely horrible, and I can't really even imagine what you and your dad must be feeling and going through.
Having had clinical depression, myself, I can tell you that it's imperative that your sister continue to take her meds. I began taking Prozac when I was a freshman in college, and it has actually helped to better balance out my moods and, as a result, I have had very few episodes of depression in recent years. I'm 24-years-old, by the way. Now, I still have a tendency toward depression, but Prozac does help to alleviate some of the symptoms. Also, I have benefitted from Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy which is a therapy that deals with how your thoughts impact your mood and behaviors. This may seem very fundamental, and I agree that it is. I tend to be an "in-my-head" kind of person (and a writer :-)), so I'm very aware of my thoughts and feelings. Even so, this therapy helped me to really look at what I was thinking, and reframe my thoughts into ones that were more realistic (i.e. instead of "I will never get a job because this job market is so awful", I thought, "I may have some difficulty finding a job, but there are jobs out there, as many people I know are working."). It was very helpful, and I would recommend it to nearly anyone dealing with depression.
These things said, it sounds like your sister's depression is much, much worse than mine is, and it also sounds like she has symptoms of schizophrenia(??), so I would tend to think that you might need to refer her out to a hospital setting ( I hate to have to say that)...especially since she is refusing to stay on her meds. She might pose a danger to you, your dad, and others if she doesn't have constant supervision, and I'm sure that you're in no position to attend to her 24-7 as, I'm certain, that you have a job and family that you need to be attending to. I also want to point something else out to you: though your sister's illnesses are not her fault, and since she is aware that she has these illnesses, she does have control of her own behavior, and she chooses how she handles things(such as taking, or not taking, her medication). So, though I also hate to have to say this, it is her fault that she is behaving the way that she is because she has a very simple choice...and that choice is to take or not to take her medication.
"The only emotions that are deadly are the ones that are unexpressed."--Iyanla Vanzant
Last edited by Musical_Muse; 04-30-2004 at 10:16 AM.