Re: my doctor insists i start effexor
Of course, ultimately you decide whether or not you want to take medicine, but from what you're describing--the stress, etc--I too think you would benefit from taking effexor. I personally take effexor and my mind has never felt as clear. I suffer from ibs too, but it didn't get any better after taking the antidepressants. I'm on a high dose of zelnorm which helps.
Are you underweight? From what I read, you weigh only 88 lbs? If you're really concerned about gaining weight from the drug, I wonder if you have some sort of body image disorder b/c it doesn't seem right that you would be scared of gaining a few lbs. And in all honesty, if you can control what you eat, you won't gain a lot of weight.
Try not to think of it as taking a pill to make you happy. The medicine helps to clear up your mind and helps you focus. It has given me a clarity that I never thought I would have, and I'm not as "on edge". But my day to day moods are just that--I have to decide when I wake up in the morning if I'm going to have a good day or a bad day, and I choose what's going to bother me. The medicine does not do it for you, but it can help you rationalize, prioritize, and basically live more healthily.