Re: my doctor insists i start effexor
Of course, ultimately you decide whether or not you want to take medicine, but from what you're describing--the stress, etc--I too think you would benefit from taking effexor. I personally take effexor and my mind has never felt as clear. I suffer from ibs too, but it didn't get any better after taking the antidepressants. I'm on a high dose of zelnorm which helps.
Are you underweight? From what I read, you weigh only 88 lbs? If you're really concerned about gaining weight from the drug, I wonder if you have some sort of body image disorder b/c it doesn't seem right that you would be scared of gaining a few lbs. And in all honesty, if you can control what you eat, you won't gain a lot of weight.
Try not to think of it as taking a pill to make you happy. The medicine helps to clear up your mind and helps you focus. It has given me a clarity that I never thought I would have, and I'm not as "on edge". But my day to day moods are just that--I have to decide when I wake up in the morning if I'm going to have a good day or a bad day, and I choose what's going to bother me. The medicine does not do it for you, but it can help you rationalize, prioritize, and basically live more healthily.
"Never give up, never surrender!"