To all, and especially to the Lovely Amber:
Lovely Amber wrote the following in another post. I wonder, can Amber or anyone else expand on this concept? There's a lot here, but I'm not quite getting it, and I certainly would like to--I'm blaming myself too much and have a guilty conscience but don't deserve to.
Thanks to all who answer.
T. "forgiving yourself is difficult. for me, i just had to realize that no one else was mad at me for the things i did. and the things that people were still mad at me about- well, someone else was doing a good job at expending energy to think about what i did- why should i do the same? if someone else is going to be angry and upset and mean over an event i did- well, they are feeling the same things at me that i was feeling at myself- a waste of energy i think! why shine two flashlights at the same wall? i'll just move on and let them do the job of being negitive. let it affect them- that's their choice.
i know this is easier said than done, especially in the begining. but this really is how i got past things that i couldn't do anything about anyway.
and if i could do something about it- i did! but usually i couldn't."