I need somebody to talk to... long but please offer support if you can - Depression Message Board

Beastiegirl · 09-14-2002, 09:56 AM

After a couple years on Celexa, I feel much better, but I never thought I'd be writing about my husband.

HERE'S THE BACKGROUND:

His behavior has been getting odder over the last couple of years. I can't really explain it. The guy I fell in love with years ago was nice and sweet and "little eccentric".

Those eccentricities have turned into little monsters. Every year there is a job crisis which he blames on luck and I blame on bad choices. Most of the time his personality if great but sometimes he'll just get mean and mentally abusive. He used to be very easygoing to the point that people would take advantage of him, but now he is intolerant of anybody who has ideas different from him. Get the picture?

I thought he was unhappy with me or our marriage, but he insists that's not the case, and I have given him opportuniies for outs. He says he worships me and will do anything for me, but when I DO ask him to do something, he sort of ignore's it.

NOW HERE'S THE DEAL:

He has been having trouble getting to sleep. Our GP wouldn't give him anything, even temporarily. He says his mind races about thoughts about the next day... etc... everything. By the time he has to get up in the morning, he's worn out.

So, I suggested he see my hypnotherapist/psych. I also suggested he see a psychiatric practice in the same building for medication management. I explained that they would give him somehting to help him sleep if he was seeing a psych and it was evident that he wasn't just trying to get "drugs".

Well, guess what. The doctor did an evaluation on him (yesterday was the appt) and diagnosed him with hypomania and put him on Risperidone.

I looked the diagnosis up on the web and it fit him to a "T". The inappropriate behavior, anger, jumping in on strangers conversations, and the belief that he's right and everybody else is wrong.

Does anybody know about Risperidone.

On one hand the whole thing scares me, but on the other hand, maybe his behavior will be corrected.

It sure would be nice to fall in love again with that man I once knew.

ffsmith · 09-14-2002, 11:04 AM

I do not have much helpful to say Bestiegirl

But it has been my experience that people do change in the way you describe over time.

I see parts of the behavior you describe in different people I know, but I do not know any one person that is like what you describe.

I know first hand that if you are easy going and people do take advantage of you this can eventually start to sour your attitude. I also know about the mind racing at times and being worn out when waking up.

But you also describe being mentally abusive and jumping in on conversations, and the unreasonable belief of being right. These are harder for me to personally identify with.

I am wondering if maybe things are not quite as simple as one all encompassing diagnosis?

It does sound like quite a nasty combination however and I too hope things are corrected for both your sakes.

Beastiegirl · 09-14-2002, 06:04 PM

Any positive responses welcome.

mydog8mybrain · 09-14-2002, 11:00 PM

Beastie - What kind of work does he do? Is he self employed?

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Those who dispense tough love to their children now should be prepared to receive same back from them in 30 years.

Beastiegirl · 09-15-2002, 06:17 AM

Yes he is, sort of ... right now.

That was part of the problem. He would accept positions with companies that were brand new or no track record and then something would happen to the company a year later. Apparently, that's part of the illness - bad judgement. Just recently he has tried to contract himself out (IT, computer networking). he is doing OK, but now great with it.