I am a quiet person falling into depression... - Depression Message Board

beatjunkie2003 · 01-04-2003, 07:09 PM

I'm a 19.m, and I don't know what's wrong with me...I am just a quiet person and I don't know how to get out of this shell...I want a girlfriend, but at times I think, do I really want to spend all my time with her? I also have the feeling of being tired all the time and don't even feel like goin out even when there's a girl I want to bring.I already know I suffer from depression, I like to think a lot and it's just that...I am too quiet at times..is there anything I can take that will help me through this. I noticed caffeine helps, but it's just another temporary fix..as I said, I'm a 19/m so I am afraid to try other depression meds as they have side effects, and I'm always afraid about drugs that'll cause me to be impotent, loss of sperm count, or what not, I'm only 19, I don't need anything that'll harm me, so what do others suggest..

west virginia girl · 01-04-2003, 07:50 PM

Hi and Welcome

Could you possibly get into therapy or a group of some kind to help you over come some of your shyness? I may even talk with a doctor if you think the depression is bad enough,just depends on how you really feel. I don't know but maybe there is a medicine that wouldn't make you impotent,the side affects medicines have can effect everyone differently so you just never know,but even if your just don't want to try medicine maybe your doctor could suggest some helpful things to help you out. I didn't really have a choice about getting on medicine or not,well I did but things were very bad for me and I couldn't fix it on my own,and the medicine doesn't help completely but it has helped me some. And what you said about the caffeine,sometimes a quick fix is better than nothing. take care

ffsmith · 01-05-2003, 11:38 AM

I had been not drinking any caffeine for a long time, but lately I was getting very tired at work, especially in the afternoons. So lately I have been having about 1 sodas w/ caffeine a day. Sometimes it seems to help a little. Exercise would probably be better though.
I have heard that Welbutrin does not have the sexual side effects.
I agree with west virginia girl, that you should try and get some help with the shyness, because I know from experience that it only gets worse with age.

As far as the girlfriend thing, I have no experience, but I think that there are probably 19 year old girls that also want a boy friend, but do not know exactly what they want and do not want to spend all their time with him.
So you might be able to find someone looking for all you are able to offer at this point in your life. (Which to me sounds very normal

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unique · 01-05-2003, 05:02 PM

Hi there.

I can relate to what you are going through. As far as medications, I really think that that should be your last resort. See a respected counselor and maybe she/he can refer you for therapy to combat your social dilemma. What are your interests? I know this might sound cliche, but find out what it is that you love to do and get busy, although I know how hard it is to do that when you feel tired all the time. Believe me, I know because I experience it periodically. I still push myself though, and it feels good to finish something you know. You have to have determination to fight your depression, I am doing just that. No medications for me. Not yet. I just try to live life the best that I can. Some days, I manage to do just fine, other days I just get lazy. Okay, well I may not have been able to provide much help to you but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and that you can help yourself, be strong. Take care.

Phil Dawg · 01-07-2003, 08:50 AM

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Originally posted by beatjunkie2003:
I'm a 19.m, and I don't know what's wrong with me...I am just a quiet person and I don't know how to get out of this shell...I want a girlfriend, but at times I think, do I really want to spend all my time with her? .

Welcome to my world buddy. Im also a quiet person to a certain extent, I'm mostly ok talking to guys but when it comes to girls....unless they talk to me first...I freeze up and just dont say a word.

So in comes the internet. For some reason I always meet these girls in chat rooms...etc. I meet them in person everything goes OK for the first maybe 2 weeks.Then after about 3 weeks to a month...I find out...Im just to quiet to deal with girls on a day to day basis. Then I try to ignore them and they call the house 24.7 blah blah blah...star calling me a Jerk ETC.

Anyway my point is, let the girls come to you my man....just relax. Being quiet is a good thing 95% of the time.

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