effexorjunkie

You certainly have your plate full.
Do not try to protect Mom, you need to talk to her unless you think she would become offensive.
How about a school counselor?
Try that as well.
Uncle is being cruel. He is doing the worst thing he could do in this situation. Perhaps he forgot that right or wrong, weak or strong, a child takes on the shame and blame of the family without help.
You miss your dad and that is very important for him to acknowledge. Uncle is way out of line and causing harm. If he can't be part of the solution he is part of the problem.
It is safe to say that more than likely you are having major stress issues and unresolved feelings about all of it.
Please find someone to talk to in real time.
It may be you will be able to see how to rid yourself of some of the emotional responsibilities you are carrying around.
Mom is an adult. She is still your mom with kids she needs to guide and advise. Yes , working is hard with kids when you are the only one doing so. But she needs to be a part of you in a parents capacity.
You are a thoughtful young person who has taken on too much.
As a Mom, I would want to know how my kids were internalizing things, especially major issues.
There are also support groups you could inquire about for teens if you can't get help with a counselor at school, please give that a try tho.
Talk to Mom, or sometimes, writing her a letter would help.
Express all that you feel, fears, anger, resentment etc. Not rudely of course but informative.
First, writing it down helps you first.
Second, it lets Mom know the status of her family.
Third, it gives you both a foundation on which to build and reconstruct.
I would like to see you get help in establishing your boundaries. Mom and you might need to set some for Uncle.
Children identify themselves with their parents. When Uncle criticizes your Dad , he is also attacking you at heart and he does not have the right to do this.
As far as the teen age stuff, it doesnt help with so much on your plate. Teen age years are hard for most unless they live a charmed existance. Most of us don't and didn't . It can be a painful time. The good news is that you are not a teen for long and eventually the world maturity level catches up to itself.
In the mean time, you need help establishing who you are, what your boundaries are and what your reponsibilities are. They need to be defined and if they are not, you need an adult help you to do this.

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