This is my first time here. I lost my mother few months ago. She had cancer. Ever since, I am in and out of depression, I would classify it as mild depression. Some days or weeks I am o.k. but then I start spiraling down again, up down up down pattern. Lately, I realized that my attention span is getting shorter. I have trouble concentrating on what people are telling me, frequently they have to ask or say things twice. Words just do not register. I was wondering if this is a by-product of depression. My husband thinks it is and it will go away sometime but I am concerned. Especially at work ( I am an engineer), I emberass myself by making people repeat their questions and I know it just looks bad.
Does any of you have a similar experience? Thanks.
Lack of concentrationa and attention span are definitely part of depression.
I was very restless and hyper and I couldn't concentrate watching television or reading. I am taking effexor now and it has definitely helping with all of the above. It isn't doing all that much for my depression but I may need a higher dose.
After about 7 weeks on anti depressants is when i noticed a difference in concentration. I had a job that required intense concentration and was always forgetful also.
I am so sorry to hear about your mom. If you are not on medication you might want to ask your doctor about it. I found the depression kind of sneaked up on me. I didn't go to the doctor soon enough and ended up in a really bad downward spiral and ended up in the hospital for a month.
Trust me, you're not alone with the short attention span problem. Sometimes when people are talking I completely disregard what they're saying; I'm in my own little world with a one-track mind.
I'm also quite clumsy- I work at a restaurant, and I'm constantly dropping things or failing to recognize when I have a new table or if a customer needs something... this happens at home, too. I can hardly walk and chew gum at the same time on some days (I realize that some of this may be due to my new medicine)!
I don't know if that helped at all, but I find that sharing experiences is sometimes therapy in itself.
Yes, short attention span is also a part of my depression. Whether depressed or not, the loss of a parent is something you don't get over as easy as you want. I lost my father 13 years ago and it took longer than I would have ever expected. Don't try to fight the feeling. Just let it be.
I suggest not taking any medication. And I recomend visiting a therapist for the next year or so and for you to recieve grievance counseling. If you decide to not get counseling then you may develop a more permanent mental illness.
For a while, I have been thinking about medication/therapist and I reached the decision thatI will try to get over this without medications. However, I may seek grievance counseling. Are there therapists or physcologists that specialize in grievance counseling, do you know?
There are counsellors out there that specialise in bereavement counselling.
Feelings of depression and loss of concentration are all part of the loss that you are experiencing right now and it is all part of the grief process. I know that this is really hard for you, but you do need to have these feelings and experience them to get through this at the other end. If the grief process gets stuck, this is when you can run into trouble.
I am very glad that you want to try the bereavement counselling and I think this will be very benefical to you in helping you to get through this.