Originally Posted by macadamiaNUT
Oh those family reactions to a loss in the family!! It's either a time you find out what good people you were born with or what greedy people they are. And desperate situations can make people act out of character, unfortunately. I'm so sorry things are so difficult for you right now, and that your family has been torn apart at least for now as a result. If your father could undo this mess now, I'm guessing he would.
You've been flagged for bipolar? Does that mean it's a possible diagnosis that's being looked at, or that you have it? What happens when you are under stress if you do have bipolar?
It sounds like your twin has had the family spotlight on her for some time, with sympathy being given from all around. And still you value her relationship with her--enough to prod your father to please change his will. You've not only lost your dad, but your feeling of "family" too. It can mend possibly, but right now you're feeling pretty abandoned and it isn't right. I hope your husband is understanding and willing to listen some. We're here to listen too.
I actually have Bi Polar Disorder I was diagnosed with it 4 yrs ago..Under stress I can act out like a total nut and go into a rampage smashing anything in sight or I find a bottle of tylenol pm and sleep as long as possible without overdosing...It just depends on what is going on and i am not sure just howi will react untill I have already done it...This time it has been the tylenol pm and many hrs spent crying..
My sister has always had the family spotlight I can never remember when she didnt...As we grew up I always wondered how and y and still to this day do not understand it..Most of her misfortune she has cast on herself she is the one who decided not to hold a job and have to beg for everything she needed...I mean I dont hold down a job either but I have a hubby who does and can provide for our family and I dont need to work...She on the other hand married a man who is just like her and just dosent want to work..They have both just up and quit state jobs for no apparent reason...It wasnt my choices that have landed her where she is it is HERS....
Unfortunaltly my hubby isnt as understanding as I would like him to b he says to shrug it off and move on His family values are not the same as mine and there for it is nothing for him to ignore his sister and move on.. He also seems to think that me being Bi polar is just an excuess I use instead oof dealing with whatever is going on...He is however right that it is in my head but I can not control when i am gonna b up or down..So talking to him is like talking to a darn brick wall...Sometimes I get a better response from the wall ha ha .. Ok now that i have bored u half to death I will let u move on and help someone who can b helped thanks for ur time