I don't know where else to turn. I'm a 51 yr. old woman, happily married for 29 yrs. I live in NJ, my parents live in CA, where they've been for 29 yrs. My dad was diagnosed with advanced, stage 4, Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, back in June. I've flown out there five times since then, and it's been horrible. He's so sick and weak, chemo doesn't seem to be helping at all, aside from making him weaker and more sick. In addition to my dad's terminal illness, my yellow lab, 2 1/2 yrs. old, just died from cancer two weeks ago, which really shocked us. I loved him so much, I can't even think about him without crying. I have no kids at home anymore, so my dog was everything to me. My husband works full-time, which makes it easier to adjust. I don't work outside our home, and it leaves me too much time to think about how horrible my life is right now. I've lost 20 lbs. over the last eight months, which I needed to lose, but I wasn't even trying, which is the strangest thing of all. I suppose I'm "clinically depressed", and I just can't admit it to my doctor. I feel like a failure, admitting to depression. Any suggestions as to what I can do to make this depression go away?? Thanks.
Hi Gina, sorry to hear about all that you have been going through. In my opinion, if you can go talk to a counselor about all of your feelings the depression will lift. Sometimes if we have strong feelings that go unexpressed we begin to feel depressed.
It is important to catch depression as quickly as possible to ensure the greatest chance of success. Go speak with your doctor and truly let him know how you feel. Depression is nothing to mess around with
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clinical depression i've heard is also called major depression but dont' quote me on that. i have been dealing with major depression for over a year now. i tried and tried to deal with it through talking with counselors. it helped for a while. having someone to just talk to that won't judge me but it wasn't enough anymore. i was starting to do self injuries. ended up at a psychatrist who said i needed medication for it. i know how hard it is to admit you have depression and feel like a failure. I KNOW. your story sounds so much like me.
my dad died 7 years ago. with lung cancer. my mom was hit and killed by a car 5 years ago. i had a petloss. my old cat of 22 years. that is what sent me into major depression and triggering my parents losses agian.
believe me depression is not something to mess around with. i was at the point of suicide when i had to admit i needed help. please dont' go there. get help now. you will be glad you did. i'm still dealing with mine but with medication, i'm on prozac now, its getting better.
i'm so sorry for your petloss and that your dad is so sick. you need to talk with someone. don't keep it inside. okay?
I'd suggest seeing a therapist. Talking about your feelings makes a big difference. The more sources of support the better. I think it would be very helpful to find activities to get out of the house. Isolation makes depression much worse.