Re: depression and lost friends
Hi bluegecko, welcome to the place. I've noticed the same thing, that friends seem to abandon me when the going gets tough. But in hindsight, I can't really blame them, because I have, with each black hole I have crawled into and out of, learned to make myself unavailable, because I truly wanted to be alone. I didn't reply to their emails, letters, phone messages. It was hard enough to get out of bed each morning. It's not their fault, it's just a clear sign that they truly do not know what to say and what to do. Yes, it seems obvious that they should keep in touch. But in all honesty, I have treated others the same. It's out of my ability when I am depressed to look objectiviely at another's pain and find the right approach, even though I want to reach out and help. We are all only human, and some have learned the skills better than others.
I have found that this site takes up the slack. We are experts at surviving depression.