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Old 12-19-2006, 05:11 AM   #1
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Christmas

I'm dreading Christmas. I feel the same way every year and I hate it. I know I will try so hard and make out that I am enjoying myself but I know that I will end up spending most of the holiday in bed or curled up somewhere just wanting to be alone. My family have been so patient with me because I know I must be terrible to be with at this time of year but, I just can't help it. This is the time of year when my depression really starts to kick in. I wish I could go to bed and wake up in the new year when it's all over but I know I can't. I have to put on the fake smiles for all my family and pretend I'm having fun when inside I'm crying and I just want to crawl away and die. Sorry guys, I know Christmas should be a happy time and I don't want to bring anyone down. Anyone else feel down at this time of year?
Take care anyway, and try and have a peaceful time this Christmas, my thoughts are with all of you

 
Old 12-19-2006, 12:57 PM   #2
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Re: Christmas

I can not stand Christmas and I do not have any clue why. I am sure as my son ages I will look forward to it more to see the excitement in his eyes but right now I would do the same, sleep through it if I could. We usually have snow right now but this year there is none and the sun is out so that helps some.

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Old 12-19-2006, 02:34 PM   #3
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Re: Christmas

This year I'm struggling. Last year was our first with the kids and I. Last year I enjoyed it. This year I'm not. It feels reeeeeeeeally empty around here, altho nothing has changed much. This year I'm working through the break in a window-less office, and I really think that has made a negative impact. We'll do Christmas breakfast & presents as usual, with their dad, and then again over at his folks house with extended family (it's a little weird, but it works) for dinner, grab bag blah blah blah. we have a tree up but not decorated, and not one gift purchased. And I don't want to go out there and shop in the madness. blech.

yours,

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Re: Christmas

I feel the same this year, bah humbug! I haven't decorated this year, I haven't bought one present (divorced and no kids). I used to love CHristmas, but this year something has happened to me that I'm not enjoying anything. At least I get the week home instead of being on the road again. I am so sick to my stomach right now, a very nervous feeling, I hate it... I'm in a hotel room and don't want to be here.

 
Old 12-20-2006, 02:33 AM   #5
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Re: Christmas

I also hate Christmas....ANY holiday, for that matter. I hate having my "normal daily routine" upheaved. I hate putting on fake smiles (feels like I'm being 2 people). I hate having my family (parents & siblings) "watch" me, to assess how my behavior is on any given day. Since I started going to a therapist and am finally "coming into who I really am" and have been adressing my upbringing, my family thinks I'm pulling away from them! Can't win.

I try to put on a happy face for my 3 sons. Thankfully, my dear husband "picks up the slack" and continues to make holidays memorable for our boys.

Me.....I hate Christmas.
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Old 12-20-2006, 03:44 AM   #6
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Re: Christmas

me too...this year i feel that i can't afford to have christmas. whenever i go to the shopping center and see people carrying big shopping bags, i feel so intimidated and sad.

i use to love christmas in the past, but this year money is tight and the diagnose of osteoarthritis just makes me miserable.

 
Old 12-20-2006, 08:45 AM   #7
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Re: Christmas

Here with you all, I know how you feel. This time of year is for a reason, not all the commercial stuff going on, however you celebrate it. It has gotten way out of hand and I have not talked to one solitary person who has said they are looking forward to the holidays! That ought to tell us something. Too much stress!!! I think we make ourselves feel guilty by comparing our lives to all the advertising with how things "should be", and not how they are for us in reality. I just go with the flow and look ahead to January when it's all over and I can breathe!

 
Old 12-20-2006, 07:51 PM   #8
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Re: Christmas

I usually enjoy the holidays, but I've spent the past few months trying to recover and get back on track - it's made it difficult to get into the Christmas season. I'm definitely not looking forward to talking to relatives - not all relatives, but a few in particular {See my Holiday Parties thread.}. I've decided to avoid going to my grandparent's Christmas Eve get-together. I know it sounds selfish, but I have to focus on me and do what I can to avoid setbacks. I still plan to see my grandparents later on, and those are the only extended relatives that I'm close to, anyway.

I would take this time to do something you enjoy. It's taken me so long to enjoy ANYTHING. I'm spending the early evening of Christmas Eve at a friend's watching movies. I can spend the rest of the evening with my parents, getting family time in. I know it's hard to put on a happy face with relatives. My parents and close friends don't expect that, so it's only the grandparents that I have to do it for. If you don't enjoy the family stuff, duck out of it early. Spend that time huddled up with a blanket if that's what you need to do.

 
Old 12-20-2006, 07:51 PM   #9
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Re: Christmas

I usually enjoy the holidays, but I've spent the past few months trying to recover and get back on track - it's made it difficult to get into the Christmas season. I'm definitely not looking forward to talking to relatives - not all relatives, but a few in particular {See my Holiday Parties thread.}. I've decided to avoid going to my grandparent's Christmas Eve get-together. I know it sounds selfish, but I have to focus on me and do what I can to avoid setbacks. I still plan to see my grandparents later on, and those are the only extended relatives that I'm close to, anyway.

I would take this time to do something you enjoy. It's taken me so long to enjoy ANYTHING. I'm spending the early evening of Christmas Eve at a friend's watching movies. I can spend the rest of the evening with my parents, getting family time in. I know it's hard to put on a happy face with relatives. My parents and close friends don't expect that, so it's only the grandparents that I have to do it for. If you don't enjoy the family stuff, duck out of it early. Spend that time huddled up with a blanket if that's what you need to do.

 
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