I was once called an "orphan" by a therapist. Yep can you beleive
that, I am in my 30's and I was callled an orphan. Here is why he
See I grew up in a loving family, but in the last 20 years my family
that I grew up in started to fall apart.
My parents are very selfish people, for they love money more than
anything. Especially my father. Here is an example of that, I need
to get a check up at the dental office for a sore tooth and I
politely asked my father for a wee bit of help. He started to scream
at me like I was some little kid. I hardly ever ask for money. But
that is not all. I am only allowed to visit my folks on an
appointment bases. I am only allowed to see my parents (rather they
want to only see me) three times a year at the most. Where do they
live... just 2 hours away! And when I do see them I must talk all
positive or they will get mad. Mother does not work much only when
she feels like it but she mostly drinks, and father has sat. afternoons off and all of Sunday.
I am almost 100% sure that my parents did not want kids cause my
brother was a "surprise" he is the oldest. They never ever wanted to
spend money for things like stitches that I need in the 3rd grade or
brasses that I needed in the 4th grade for an over-bit. They said
that they think that me needing any medical help that cost money
like stitches and such was not worth it.
They were not at all poor
either for my father had his own business. They only call me when it
is convenient to them. And if I call them when it is not convenient
to them they will not answer the phone, and this is about 80% of the
time I call. And if I disagree with them they will not talk to me
for months and months..this has happened so many times in the last 5
years. For, I have been estranged twice as well. They will only talk to me
again if I beg them for forgiveness.
I litteraly have no other contact with my family members but my
parents, and they know it too. My brother is just as greedy as my
father and he wants nothing to do with me because I am not rich. All
of my grandparents passed away too. So I have no one, but I cannot
live a lie nor can I beg for someone to fogive me who is gonna pull
the same crap with me again and again.
Anyway, I want to thank you for listening to my rant about this! It sure does hurt when you do not have a loving family to go to when ever you want. I feel like an odd ball..it seems that everyone around me has some family member that cares for them, I feel like I am a major outsider in this world!
You know if you do have a family that loves you consider yourself
very blessed that you have someone to spend quality time with anytime.
Thanks again for listening to this!!!