Re: Can you be depressed and not even realize it?
I lost my mom a year ago and I am just now feeling depressed after a year or so of grief. It is very difficult to tease out what is grief vs. depression vs. anxiety. It's kind of like which came first, the chicken or the egg? Depression and anxiety are very influential on one another. You could feel depressed and have low motivation and then get anxious because you are not getting things done. Reversed, you could have anxiety and then get depressed because you don't feel like you have conrol. Again, it's like the chicken or the egg analogy.
When you add grief into the mix, it gets really confusing. I would encourage you to focus on your level of functioning. For example, I am usually a social and outgoing person, yet I am isolating. Yes, I am entitled to hermit after experiencing a significant loss, but too much isolation over a long time will only make me more depressed in the long run because by nature, I am a social person.
Do not disregard your grief, two months is not a long time since experiencing a significant loss. But, know who you are normally and if you think that you are not functioning at the level that is consistent with how you are naturally, then worry about whether or not you are depressed. Although, I have to say that I think two months after a death is too soon to tell. It's been an up and down year for me - the anniversary just passed and I am just coming around.
But, grief is different for everybody and every sittuation is unique. Hope you find the answers that you're looking for.