Originally Posted by emeraldeyes114
I tend to be really shy around those I don't know or know well. Most tend to think I am just snobbish which isn't true at all. Part of my problem has always been the negative self stuff your hear in your head. my sister who is very outgoing and she told me that lots of times she is not nearly so sure of herself as she appears.
wow--that's exactly how i used to be at one point in time. but with time and experiences, i managed to get over it at least a little. although i remember high school. it was the worst. i was soooo shy, and the other girls alwasy thought i was a snob or something, when in fact i kept so much to myself for fear of actually opening my mouth. thank God for time, and people coming in and out of one's life. for shy guy:
you're not alone at all!!!!!!!! if you want to read a book about just this sort of thing, read the highly sensitive person
, by elaine n. aron. it is easy to read and very good. the author considers herself a shy person but terms the shyness as "sensitive" -- it offers strategies on how to deal with things in life; how to choose a vocation for you, if you consider yourself a sensitive person, how to deal with work, how sensitive people behave in love relationships....it's really a good book. wish i'd had it when i was in high school and even college!!!
good luck to you, shy/sensitive guy!