Here's my thing............I have severe mood swings and am ill at the world.....This has been going on since I guess I was a child because of things that have happened to me from being molested,raped and having a mother that was so hateful to me but she was great to my bro's....I am on Effexor XR just started taking 37.5MG yesterday for a week then am suppose to go to 70MG.........I had been told by three different doctors I need to see someone....So I went to a psychologist tonight at 7......Told him everything from childhood til now.......And he asked questions......To me the questions he asked weren't realted to anything...Example..."where was I born"....and questions that I had pretty much already answered in telling him about my past and present.......He says I am full of stress and alot of anger...( I already know this)....Wants me to come back next week and continue sessions w/ him.......My question is......I have talked about all this with lots of friends.....What is talking to a psychologist gonna change??
This is a little hard to explain. Your problems started in childhood. They usually do.
The psychologist's seemingly dumb questions, may have a bearing on your current problems.
I'll try to give you an easy example....for me this is an easy example...
My parents divorced when I was 6. I would spend weekends with my Dad. I wanted to live with my Dad, and would become very depressed when I left on Monday morning.
Fast forward to 3 years ago.
I would spend the weekend with my boyfriend. When I left on Monday mornings, I would cry all the way home. It got to the point that I would pick a fight on Sunday night, and would end up leaving on Sunday night.
With therapy, I realized that the feeling that I had when I left my boyfriend's house, was the same feeling I had when I left my Dad's house. After this was discovered, I was prepared on Monday morning, and with time, the feeling went away.
No friend is going to connect the dots on something like that.
The first time I ever went to a psychologist, it was the same way. I spent almost a half an hour filling out the paper work, a good 45 minutes talking about stuff, only to be asked questions that were either in the paper work that my psychologist was holding in her hand, or I had just talked about it during our session. I left frustrated, and angry, and felt like it was a total waste of my time. But I gave it a shot the next week, and within a couple weeks time, my psychologist became my life-saver, and to this day...I will be forever thankful for her. I think in the beginning, they're trying to get a feel for us as a patient, and as a person, and they're trying to get comfortable with us, and in turn, trying to get us comfortable with them. The more we have to talk and answer questions, the more that will eventually come out. Sometimes things come out of our mouths different than it appears on paper, and sometimes, if we have to think about it again (Even if we just talked about it) I think other things tend to come up that could be burried deeper than we realized. Unfortunately, I moved, and switched psychologists, and the next psychologist wasn't much of a help at all....and I always left feeling worse than I did when I went in. So with all that being said, just as with anything else, maybe this psychologist just isn't for you. Maybe you could give him another chance next week, and if it doesn't work out, look for someone else.
Just my thoughts on it...I hope you find something or someone that will help you with the support you need. Good luck,
I have talked about all this with lots of friends.....What is talking to a psychologist gonna change??
A lot! The psychologist will give you insight and information that your friends just don't have. My therapy was extremely helpful. The best thing that I ever did for myself. You won't believe how much mistreatment affects your development and a good psychologist can help you fix the development that didn't go so well.
Make sure you find the right psychologist for you. You need to have a great chemistry with him/her. If you don't like yours, find a new one. No sense in paying a boatload of money for someone that doesn't listen, or doesn't ask the right questions. I went through prob 5 before I found one I trusted and had good chemistry with.
It was the first session so maybe he was just trying to get an outline of your life. Or maybe he was just not for you.
Research different types of therapy online and see what kind of psychologist yours is. I am currently doing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Also, there are different things like group therapy that you may be eventually interested in.
I went to a psychologist after a lot of things happened and I could not cope any more - he was not very good and left me more angry and confused when I left than when I went in and I said I'd never go back to another one - but eventually I was talked into it as I felt I had landed in a bottomless pit and needed help to get out - the next guy was fantastic! I know it sounds melodramatic but I really think he saved my life after dealing with my initial reason for seeing him he went on and helped me with a load of other things that I didn't even know were bothering me.
Stick with it - your guy is probably just getting the basic information he needs to help you - and the first session is usually about facts and figures and getting everything down on paper - him saying you were angry was just to show you he realises what you have a problem with - I hope he is helpful for you - but if he's not try again - there is help out there - you just have to find it - and you'll find a lot of support here too.
That's what I didn't like about psychologists. I went to two sessions with one, and it didn't seem to go anywhere. He asked me all of these personal questions about my childhood - by the end of the second session, we'd only gotten to my high school years. Maybe that would be good for someone that had traumatic events happen in their childhood that affect them now. I don't think my depression is situational AT ALL. There are some recent events that may've triggered my depression, but that is debatable since mental illness runs in my family, and seems to be adult-onset. My childhood and life up until fairly recently has all in all been pretty good, and actually, my life circumstances have improved somewhat, but I still fight depression.
I don't really get the point of therapy. I know it helps to talk to someone, but to answer 100 questions from someone you've just met just doesn't seem like to me would be a very good thing for depressed people. I was in a bad state at that time and felt very uncomfortable with it. I've been seeing my GP on a regular basis, and I discuss things that are going on in my life, but that's different since I've known him longer, and I don't get into in-depth discussions. I really just want my pills because that I think makes the biggest difference. I've heard of intense psychotherapy, which supposedly is like therapy on the fast-track. That, to me, sounds ideal, though I doubt anyone in my town does that.
Here's my thing......What is talking to a psychologist gonna change??
i thought the same thing when i first started seeing one. now looking back i'm glad i have... and still am....talking with a counselor. they guide you in ways you never knew were possible an help you think and see things differently about your life.
i dont regret any of the counseling i've had. well....just one person that was NO HELP so i quit with that one...but anyways...i understand myself better in ways i didn't know about that were bothering me....and are STILL bothing me. life is just hard....
oh, ya....one little thing they seem to tell ya ALOT...you get out of therphy what your willing to put into it.
My question is......I have talked about all this with lots of friends.....What is talking to a psychologist gonna change??
A lot of change and progress can be made, if it's the right kind of psychologist. I'm talking about one specifically trained in dealing with the type of trauma you have suffered. This is absolutely crucial to your healing. I was sexually, emotionally, and physically abused as a child. I've been in therapy for years and it has helped me a great deal because I've had therapists that were trained in dealing with childhood abuse. As Mokie said, too, you get out of therapy what you put into it. Medication is good, but it's only half of the solution, the rest is up to you.
And remember: The only way past it, is through it. You can't tip toe around your problems. I learned that a long time ago. It's not easy, but it's so worth it.
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