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Old 04-21-2008, 03:29 AM   #1
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partners depression

Hi,

my partner seems to be depressed eg: has money worries and work worries, won't talk to me about them. He keeps saying that has no feelings for me or for anybody. I asked him why he is pushing me away and he said he doesn't mean to. He doesn't seem happy (i try very hard to cheer him up - doesn't seem to work). I am concerned about him as he also said he doesn't know what he wants anymore. I tell him how much i love him and care about him, he said he knows but he wont tell me the same back. I am getting confused about what to do next or how to help and it is hurting and upsetting me terribly. please help.

 
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Old 04-21-2008, 01:16 PM   #2
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Re: partners depression

A lot of people when dealing with depression, more so for men, tend to disappear into their own heads and try to battle depression on their own. I would imagine this has something to do with the perception of what a man is suppose to be that we learn as children.

The best advice is to keep reminding him that you are there for him and hopefully he will open the door to communication. you might try mentioning this site where he is able to get what is bothering him off of his chest as this may appear to be less intimidating then going to see a doctor or therapist.

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Old 04-21-2008, 05:54 PM   #3
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Re: partners depression

I'm in the same boat, except I'm the one with depression pushing everyone away. He's pushing you away because he doesn't want you to see how depressed he is. Just let him know your there but don't push him. He will talk or seek help when he is ready.

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Old 04-22-2008, 09:14 AM   #4
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Re: partners depression

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you might try mentioning this site where he is able to get what is bothering him off of his chest as this may appear to be less intimidating then going to see a doctor or therapist.
trg247

I agree... this is why I AM here... I am scared to death to talk to a doctor... I guess I am afraid that they will think its stupid.

 
Old 04-25-2008, 08:37 AM   #5
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Re: partners depression

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Hi,

my partner seems to be depressed eg: has money worries and work worries, won't talk to me about them. He keeps saying that has no feelings for me or for anybody. I asked him why he is pushing me away and he said he doesn't mean to. He doesn't seem happy (i try very hard to cheer him up - doesn't seem to work). I am concerned about him as he also said he doesn't know what he wants anymore. I tell him how much i love him and care about him, he said he knows but he wont tell me the same back. I am getting confused about what to do next or how to help and it is hurting and upsetting me terribly. please help.
He should seek professional help. Chances are he is stuck and this will go on indefinitely.....Marital therapy works when one partner is depressed.

Good luck

 
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