Originally Posted by DBM123
I've been so very depressed since my mom died a couple weeks ago. Right away I went to see a Psychologist. I've seen her twice now and I noticed that she kept looking at the clock. On top of that, she didn't even remember what I told her the week before. She doesn't take notes, she just says "why do you feel that way"? or "how does that make you feel"?
Has anyone whose seen a psychologist before gone through this? I feel worst than I did when I began! I told her I'm so depressed, withdrawn and don't want to do anything. I've gotten no answers.
Is this normal????
It's certainly normal to feel depressed so soon after your mother died. May I ask if you're going to a psychologist b/c you feel that you're mentally ill, or just to help you cope thru this difficult time?
B/c if it's the first, I don't think feeling depressed in this situation is anything to worry about. In fact, it would be more worrying if you didn't feel that way.
Anyway, as far as the Dr., there are many different types of treatment. I believe, especially in the initial sessions, they will generally just encourage you to talk about yourself by asking open ended questions so that they can learn more about you.
As far as staring at the clock, maybe it's just a nervous tic. I used to do that a lot when I wore a watch even when I had no need to know what time it was. I stopped wearing a watch; problem solved! But I can see how that could come across as rude and insulting to you.
Here's an idea. In your next session why don't you say, "Why the hell are you always checking the clock during our sessions?" Also tell her how her style of therapy makes you feel. Just b/c she's a psychologist doesn't mean she's psychic. You have to tell her how you feel.