Depressed and lonley with no confidence. - Depression Message Board

speedislife · 09-03-2009, 03:24 PM

When in high school I had a small group of close friends, I was ultra popular, but I had some good close friends.

Then when I left school I made more friends when drinking etc. But I got in with one bad person and something bad happened.

This has helped prevent me from making new friends since. Ive made no new friends since that event and im 21 year old male.

I work from home, my best friend is away in prision! and group of friends from school have distanced them selfs in to other groups now. Leaving me with 2 close friends and 1 frindge friend.

I visit my aunts a lot to get out mose days. But its being 3 weeks since I seen my friend, and my other friend isnt out of prision untill next year.

I find it hard to make new friends, I dont seem to have the ability, confidence, desire or self esteem to. I get angry very easily and paranoid easily - im guessing due to low self esteem.

Im more comfortable around friends I know well, but other wise I cant form friendships!

Does anyone else have similar situation, and what steps to change it?

keenobserver · 09-03-2009, 04:08 PM

I wont say its a bad thing to be close to your old friends. Remember though that making friends is more of a natural thing. If people irritate you because of silly things, then s/he is not right for you and you move to someone else. Perhaps you can talk to various people about simple topics, things that you could share with anyone!

Seymour93 · 09-10-2009, 05:59 PM

You are not alone. You can find plenty of threads here on the inability to make friends and depression....Could be low self esteem or poor social skills. Consider counseling and perhaps an organized activity. Good luck

hesasu · 09-10-2009, 06:04 PM

I have tried many of the solutions that you offer, like therapy and medication but for some reason my depression and anxiety persist. Can you help?

sickofpain2 · 09-11-2009, 03:25 PM

You have to find a counselor you are comfy with and do not stop going. It took me a few tries to find the right one. I am in a depressed state most everyday of my life--been that way for years & has worsened with age. It could be part of my genetic make-up, not sure. I am entering a really low point--felt it coming on this morning. All I want to do is sleep==& sleep I will, but later on this evening.