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Old 04-28-2010, 06:48 AM   #1
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Depressed, dumped after 6 years

I was with my ex (S) for 6 years. (We did break up several times in the middle but we would always end up back together). I started my relationship with him when i was 17. We are almost the same age. (He's 6 months younger than me) In the beginning we were happy together. He came from a dysfunctional family.
After a year and a half later (our relationship), we had an argument and he hit me. I forgave him. I did suggest therapy but he refused. I loved him too much and didn't break up. He still made me happy. Then after 8 months he hit me again, in front of my friends. He said I provoked him. Again i forgave him and tried to move on. He still wouldn't see a therapist. After a while I got fed up and broke up with him. 2 weeks later I started dating a friend of mine. It drove him (S) crazy and he would call me and cry and would want me back. Things between the new guy and me didn't work out, I missed my ex too much.I broke up with him and got back with my ex (S). Anyway when I got back with him, one day he would make me the happiest in the world and the next day he would say that I cheated on him and left him. It got worse. A guy in my college asked me out and I said yes. Broke up with my ex again. I was okay, but again I would miss my ex too much. I went back to him. We would fight and the next day we would patch up. After a while he kept on accusing me off cheating on him and finally one day he lost control and smashed my head on the dashboard. I forgave him again. This time i insisted he needed therapy, and I told him straight on his face that he had some serious issues. I forgave him anyway, started working on our relationship and things got better. We were happy, he stopped hitting me no matter how much i screamed at him, he wouldnt' raise his hand.
Two months ago, he said he wanted to break up because he liked someone else. He dumped me. And now he's with this other girl. It drives me crazy. I lie on my bed the whole day, can't concentrate on anything, don't want to go out. I tried to avoid calling him, but it doesnt work, He picks up the phone, sometimes he's extremely rude to me while sometimes he's nice. I'm in denial. I expect him to come back one day. I wait for him. I even saw a therapist. It didn'T really work. I want to die. I wish somebody would just put a bullet to my head. I don't see light at the end of the tunnel. PLEASE HELP.

 
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Old 04-28-2010, 06:50 AM   #2
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Re: Depressed, dumped after 6 years

please don't wish for this abusive man back in your life.
right now he's probably hitting someone elses head on the dashboard.
be glad you're away from him.....you would have ended up a statistic.

 
Old 04-28-2010, 06:54 AM   #3
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Re: Depressed, dumped after 6 years

Why does his new girlfriend think he's a good guy. i tried explaining it to her that he used to hit me. I don't understand. I guess then there's something wrong with me

 
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Re: Depressed, dumped after 6 years

she will find out.....he's on his best behavior right now, his true self will surface soon enough.

 
Old 04-28-2010, 07:02 AM   #5
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Re: Depressed, dumped after 6 years

I agree with the last poster -- why would you want someone who abuses you in your life?? There are too many great fellows out there looking for a companion who would not be abusive. What is there to love about a person that smashes your head into a dashboard? If he is capable of doing that to you -- what else would he be capable of doing to hurt you. You should be thankful you escaped this abusive relationship without a lot of physical disabilities. No abusive man -- or woman -- is worth tolerating. You should have fun in your life -- and not fear.

 
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Re: Depressed, dumped after 6 years

I think you were stuck with your ex for a long time because you did not have anyone to support you or you appreciated the attention he gave whenever he gave. How was it growing up, any case of angry people around you not treating you very well?

Accept that life without him is better, stay as far away as you can if necessary. Think about the good things about the guy you like and see if you can get it without the physical pain. Perhaps you can make a plan of living single again, have a friend you have no interest in helping you out. Thanks

 
Old 04-29-2010, 12:29 AM   #7
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Re: Depressed, dumped after 6 years

Thanks fro your advice.

 
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